darkSpyro

I posted a picture of my three gold Skylanders on facebook. She told me that she wants me just as a friend, but before that she was comparing us to Katniss and Peeta from the Hunger Games and she said she would give us a chance. I was absolutely shocked. I explained to her what they were for but she didn't care. Has this happened to anybody else?

Then she's not worth it. Simple as that.

EDIT: Also, Katniss and Peeta would be an awful relationship. Katniss is only "in love" with Peeta to put on a show for the Capitol. That's a really awful comparison if that's what she wanted.

^ This, if she's going to judge you for what you play she really isn't worth it. I think you can find much better.

Buuuut.. No. In fact, no one knows I play Skylanders.

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Then she's not worth it. Simple as that.

EDIT: Also, Katniss and Peeta would be an awful relationship. Katniss is only "in love" with Peeta to put on a show for the Capitol. That's a really awful comparison if that's what she wanted.

Nothing to add really. This sums it up quite nicely. If that's how she reacts to something you're into it would just lead to larger problems down the road. She did you a favor even though it might not seem like it now.

LOL she's a tacky mess using the worst simile for a relationship.

The fact she rejected you because you actually have an interest in something she doesn't speaks volumes of what an awful person she is. Good riddance, I say.

Remember kids, those who really love you for you will always love you for you. None of this "oh, you like xyz? ew bye!"

lol well, I'm 24 and she's 23, so we aren't really kids, but I get what you are saying. And Katniss and Peeta end up together in the end.

Get the girl first, then start playing Skylanders

My wife swore she would never date a gamer... I always tell her that she is right, she married a gamer. I am also shaping up my daughter so that she'll be able to kick most boys butts at video games.

Seriously though, find a girl that accepts you for what you for you. If she is already shallow enough to not like you over a simple hobby, she probably won't accept most of your decisions in life.

dont listen to that girl. i may be young, but tons of people do that to me. people have opinions.

Second what everyone else is saying about her not being worth it. There are plenty of girls out there who are fine with Skylanders. My wife loves it even more than I do; she has a full boxed collection, and I only own 50% of our play set. We have a blast together, and humor each others' interests even when we'd normally be skeptical. Case in point, I've watched more than my fair share of My Little Pony with her, and even if it's not my cup of tea, I at least understand it. The right girl would be willing to do that for you. She's probably into some idiotic garbage herself. Point out the stupidity of her own hobbies, and watch her pretend that for some reason it's a different story.

Besides, from the sound of your post, she's been sizing you up for a relationship for some time. If you really like somebody, you don't need to spend forever thinking about whether or not they're worth your time. That should kind of make sense from the outset. I got married 8 months after meeting my wife, because we both knew there was no point wasting time when we were well-aware that it was going to work between us. Haven't been unhappy a single day since.

Long story short, forget about her. Plenty of people from all walks of life play Skylanders. I'm in a Ph.D. program, married, and have a kid, but here I am waiting for the new figures anyway, because who cares what anyone else thinks? Find someone who doesn't care either. Find someone who likes it, or likes you enough to give it a chance above her inhibitions, or even just ignores it completely because, despite not caring for Skylanders, she wants to be with you anyway. That's what real relationships are made of, not Hunger Games comparisons.

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lol well, I'm 24 and she's 23, so we aren't really kids

Yeah, read that line again.

Also, WHO CARES if they end up together (having not read the book), the comparison proves that she isn't mentally mature for anything serious. The rejection further proves it.

I use to call her sweetheart because Peeta calls Katniss that. She decided she wanted me to stop, so I said to her bye buddy just now and she got mad because I called her buddy. I can't win!!!!!!!

1. She compared you to a ham-fisted romance from the latest teen appeal book series/movie
2. She judged you by something so petty.

She was a bad catch from the get go, you can do better.

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I use to call her sweetheart because Peeta calls Katniss that. She decided she wanted me to stop, so I said to her bye buddy just now and she got mad because I called her buddy. I can't win!!!!!!!

Don't try and win an argument with a woman it only makes things worse, just try playing the way she wants you to play and move on.

zook, if you don't mind answering, how old are you?

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lol well, I'm 24 and she's 23, so we aren't really kids, but I get what you are saying. And Katniss and Peeta end up together in the end.

This to answer question above me

You are kidding about the ages, right? RIGHT? 23-year-olds acting that way? This has to be a troll. I cannot believe that anyone outside the ages of 10-14 would do such a thing.

Forget about her! Any person who cannot accept you for the way you are now is going to have a hard time accepting you anytime in the future. You are a package deal and changing yourself to be able to get into any relationship is not right.

Although my wife is not into Skylanders, she's got no complaints because she knows I am a kid at heart. Not only do I enjoy these things but my daughter and I have a blast with anything video game or toy related.

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lol well, I'm 24 and she's 23, so we aren't really kids, but I get what you are saying. And Katniss and Peeta end up together in the end.

This to answer question above me

thanks, naughty me for scrolling fast.

and with that information provided zook seriously needs to act his age.

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You are kidding about the ages, right? RIGHT? 23-year-olds acting that way? This has to be a troll. I cannot believe that anyone outside the ages of 10-14 would do such a thing.

hahahaha no, it's not a troll. But I see what you are saying for sure. I still have feelings for her, but I'm surprisingly doing okay. I guess her reason for wanting to end things is turning me off.

i think you need to have a look at the relationship and find the real reason ... there's no way she would dump you for having 3 gold skylanders, that'll just be a convenient excuse

... just calling it as i see it

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i think you need to have a look at the relationship and find the real reason ... there's no way she would dump you for having 3 gold skylanders, that'll just be a convenient excuse

... just calling it as i see it

Well, that's also a possibility. She could be using it as an excuse. Maybe she had a change of heart, or decided she didn't want a relationship right now? That's all possible.

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i think you need to have a look at the relationship and find the real reason ... there's no way she would dump you for having 3 gold skylanders, that'll just be a convenient excuse

... just calling it as i see it

Give me your Gold Skylanders and that will take away her excuse (and make me happy!)!!

LOL

^ cunning plan, lol

^Evil master minds, lol!

Link her to the eBay auctions. Pretty sure she'll understand why it might benefit a person to have those at that point.

I don't plan on selling my Skylanders (well, maybe at some point in the future).

Actually, if I'm not able to get the other variants, I may sell my Golds. But I'll keep the main Skylanders for sure.

I know you don't plan to sell, but it might help your case to show her what they're really worth. That way, she doesn't just think you're holding on to gold spray-painted toys for what, in her mind, is no reason at all. It should bring her some perspective on the whole "collector" aspect of things, and show her that, while they may be toys, at least you're not hoarding My Little Ponies. If you still have feelings for her, perhaps showing the method behind the madness would help smooth things over.

Lol my last gf dumped me cause of skylanders and my mega bloks collection, said i was super immature. That was a after i had delt with numerous temper tantrums she threw. My opinion, if u cant find someone who can deal what you like then you can probably find better

My advice? This girl ain't worth it, as many others said. Not only because she would judge you over something as silly as a hobby, but she seems to be a bit of a mind game player. That whole thing about "sweetheart" and "buddy"? Seems to me like she's messing with you. As a female myself (and someone who also happens to be attracted to females) I get the impression that she just wants attention and is just toying with you. Pretty immature for a 23 year old really, but alot of girls my age (I'm 19) seem to do it as well.

This is just my perception on the whole thing; I could be wrong. But I think most of the people who commented on this topic are right - go after a girl who accepts your intrests, or heck, maybe even shares them!

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I posted a picture of my three gold Skylanders on facebook. She told me that she wants me just as a friend, but before that she was comparing us to Katniss and Peeta from the Hunger Games and she said she would give us a chance. I was absolutely shocked. I explained to her what they were for but she didn't care. Has this happened to anybody else?

this girl is garbage simple as that.... find a real person.

Hey this is what I know if a girl don't like you for who or what you are she aint worth your time. Find a chick that digs what you are into and that will be way better for you. If a girl didn't like me because of my skylanders I would say piss off. I wish you the best of luck, its her loss anyway! Don't worry be happy there are so many girls out there don't hassle it dude.

Don't you realize girls stay petty no matter how old they get. Just like guys stay somewhat immature in the sense of enjoying games made for kids like this one. Guys will always be judged on a superficial basis unless the girl herself enjoys games and other geeky stuff. If that is the case then she will judge superficially based off of not liking games or off of liking what "regular" girls like (i.e. judge you for being really into sports or cars).

Just leave a print-out of an ended ebay auction fetching 700+ and your Gold skylander next to it.

See how fast she becomes interested in the skylander or you!

Thanks for all your support fellow Skylander fans. I still care about her. Maybe we'll discuss the situation, but if she won't accept me for enjoying games such as Skylanders and Pokemon, I'll have to move on and find somebody else.

nobody knows I play either.

I say that's a tough one. If you are a hard working guy...you know, work your full time job or go to school...get things done around the house. I don't see what the big deal is. People have interests and they don't have to be the same ones to get along. Don't let others change you. If you fulfill all your other duties, you earn the right to spend your free time as you wish. Is a whole different story if you wanna laze around the house and do nothing but play video games (and it doesn't sound like that's the case). Good luck with that one.

If the girl didn't want to be with you over something so trivial then she's not worth your time.

I'm a woman and I'm probably one of the biggest nerds around. I'm almost 30, married and have 2 kids and I probably have more toys than both of them combined (And they have ALOT themselves)

I play more video games, watch more anime and read more manga than my husband does, and he loaths (Or so he says) my toy collecting, yet he doesn't stop me from doing it. As a matter of fact most of the ones I have he got for me, cus he knows that it makes me happy and he's okay with that. Even though he's not into it himself, he doesn't let it bother him just because things like this isn't what makes a person.

If she can't hang with you liking to play Skylanders then she's not for you. Simple as that. And like someone else said earlier, she may be using that as a easy excuse.

Also I don't care who knows I play this game, I'm very open about the fandom's I get into. My husband not so much cus he is the type who tends to care a little too much about what others think of him.
Me not at all. Its normal to see me hitting up the stores sporting a Mario Shirt and/or Hoodie. I'm proud of my fandoms and no one should bash you for the things you like.

Coming from another girl it really shouldn't matter what you decide to do in your free time. That's like you rejecting her for liking Coach products. Something like a video game shouldn't matter

Haha I'm 22 n my ol lady is 21, she gives me **** n calls me a nerd all the time... lol prolly because she is stuck doing half of my hunting. (she works at target) If a girl doesnt want to be with you because of skylanders, that is a great sign your with the wrong person. Theres going to be a lot of crap that happens down the road n you have to make sure the person your with is going to stick with ya through thick n thin.... Zook, sorry if you liked her, but she's gotta lot to learn.

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Coming from another girl it really shouldn't matter what you decide to do in your free time. That's like you rejecting her for liking Coach products. Something like a video game shouldn't matter

Imagine how she would feel if she knew I played Pokemon. Well, probably the same as knowing I play Skylanders. I'm not going to stop because she thinks it's childish, but I don't think I'll give up on her just yet. We'll see.

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Coming from another girl it really shouldn't matter what you decide to do in your free time. That's like you rejecting her for liking Coach products. Something like a video game shouldn't matter

Imagine how she would feel if she knew I played Pokemon. Well, probably the same as knowing I play Skylanders. I'm not going to stop because she thinks it's childish, but I don't think I'll give up on her just yet. We'll see.

I still play Pokemon! And I love it! If someone has an issue it won't bother me, I stopped caring a long time ago

Yeah Moonlit, I don't care what people think, but it's hard because I like this girl.

My school is full of bad kids and tons of them play and collect skylanders! HA!

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Yeah Moonlit, I don't care what people think, but it's hard because I like this girl.

Don't ever change who you are, to be someone else. You are who you are, and won't enjoy your life if you are busy trying to be someone you are not. You shouldn't have to please someone, by giving up what you love. The things you do are what make you who you are. She can either take it or leave it. I know you really like her, but you will end up with a life of change and compromise and then resentment towards her. I bet you'll find someone that likes you for who you are. You shouldn't be afraid to tell anything, to someone that you care about. The truth never hurts, unless you can't accept it.

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I know you don't plan to sell, but it might help your case to show her what they're really worth. That way, she doesn't just think you're holding on to gold spray-painted toys for what, in her mind, is no reason at all. It should bring her some perspective on the whole "collector" aspect of things, and show her that, while they may be toys, at least you're not hoarding My Little Ponies. If you still have feelings for her, perhaps showing the method behind the madness would help smooth things over.

Horrible advice. He doesn't need to and shouldn't have to "prove" anything to anyone.

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Thanks for all your support fellow Skylander fans. I still care about her. Maybe we'll discuss the situation, but if she won't accept me for enjoying games such as Skylanders and Pokemon, I'll have to move on and find somebody else.

Boyfriend material.

I'm not even joking. Then again, in NY, most people aren't jerks about what you like...unless they're like , you know, younger than 16.

A couple of basic points here:

- Katniss/Peeta is a horrible model to base a relationship from, for a number of reasons. If she thinks of the two of you in those terms, you're probably better off. (Yes, I'm a 26 year old guy who's read these books... don't judge me.)

- Find a girl who will at the very least accept and appreciate that you enjoy spending your time in ways she might not (and, importantly, vice versa). All the better if she's the type of person who'd enjoy taking part in your gaming habit with you, but at the very least she shouldn't see it as a negative factor. If she does, there's already a problem. Relationships are about understanding and connecting with the other person, and there's at least some degree of give and take in that regard.

forget her dude, ignore her and do your thing. I've always done pretty well just doing my thing and ignoring what others say. If something brings you joy then screw what anyone else says and have confidence in yourself. Ignore those that make your stray from your enjoyments in life and eventually you'll find someone that shares that common joy.

P.S. don't post pictures of them on facebook >.> that was just a big no no to begin with. Keep yourself private and mysterious, the opposite sex loves that kinda thing.

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A couple of basic points here:

- Katniss/Peeta is a horrible model to base a relationship from, for a number of reasons. If she thinks of the two of you in those terms, you're probably better off. (Yes, I'm a 26 year old guy who's read these books... don't judge me.)

- Find a girl who will at the very least accept and appreciate that you enjoy spending your time in ways she might not (and, importantly, vice versa). All the better if she's the type of person who'd enjoy taking part in your gaming habit with you, but at the very least she shouldn't see it as a negative factor. If she does, there's already a problem. Relationships are about understanding and connecting with the other person, and there's at least some degree of give and take in that regard.

Katniss and Peeta went through a lot in Mocking Jay, but she always referred to me as Peeta being that she says I'm so sweet and would do anything to protect anybody (which is why I'm also shocked she would just break things off like this). I was referring to her as Katniss because she's naive and confused LOL. She isn't good with a bow though

On topic, I won't stop playing Skylanders for her or for anybody else. I love the figures and I look forward to Giants.

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I don't think I'll give up on her just yet. We'll see.

Just give up on her. She's clearly not worth your time if she's going to judge you like that.

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P.S. don't post pictures of them on facebook >.> that was just a big no no to begin with. Keep yourself private and mysterious, the opposite sex loves that kinda thing.

Bull. It's his facebook, he can post whatever he damn well feels like. Be proud of what you love boy!