darkSpyro

Ok, so this girl at my school sent nudes to a few people, and we're friends. She sent them to people who didn't go to our school, and now everyone knows. She is now getting bullied a lot because of it, and the school is going to suspend her, yet it had nothing to do with the school, so why should she be suspended? We were talking, and she said her parents are so mad and she's so depressed and she admits it's stupid and she shouldn't have done it, but why the **** did the school get involved? It's none of their freaking business. Ugh, do you guys think it was right for the school to suspend her for sending nudes to kids that go to a different school?

Absolutely not. Either there was some hidden reason, or the school was just wasted <.<''


By the way, did she say why she did it?

Well, where I live you can get suspended for beating someone up at like....a park or something. And there was a teacher that got fired because some kids hacked to see some very intriguing photos on a social networking thing. So schools can do stuff.

So in my opinion, she should just accept the punishment that comes with her actions. It doesn't matter if the other kids went to a different school she still sent the nudes soo...

The school is kinda a place to grow people up so it has a little to do with it as well. However, suspending would be too harsh in my opinion.

Also I'm surprised that no one has asked for the pics here yet xD

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Absolutely not. Either there was some hidden reason, or the school was just wasted <.<''


By the way, did she say why she did it?

She said it was just a mistake, and she regrets it and doesn't even know why she did what she did.

Upping nude pics into internet? Not a mistake. Maybe she just didn't know what could follow.

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Upping nude pics into internet? Not a mistake. Maybe she just didn't know what could follow.

She didn't put them on the internet.

I don't think she should get suspended, however the school does have a right to get involved. You must understand that she is a student that is representing your school. To send those pics to students at another school, disrespects your school. It was really a stupid thing for her to do. Her parents do have a right to be really upset with her. Depending on her age, this could be a criminal act. What made her do this? Who did she send the pics to? In a way I feel sorry for her, but on the same note, why did she do something this stupid?

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I don't think she should get suspended, however the school does have a right to get involved. You must understand that she is a student that is representing your school. To send those pics to students at another school, disrespects your school. It was really a stupid thing for her to do. Her parents do have a right to be really upset with her. Depending on her age, this could be a criminal act. What made her do this? Who did she send the pics to? In a way I feel sorry for her, but on the same note, why did she do something this stupid?

She regrets it, as I've stated above, she doesn't really know what she was thinking when she sent them. And only a few people she said, she wouldn't give me names (not that they matter, but I could've counted them.)

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I don't think she should get suspended, however the school does have a right to get involved. You must understand that she is a student that is representing your school. To send those pics to students at another school, disrespects your school. It was really a stupid thing for her to do. Her parents do have a right to be really upset with her. Depending on her age, this could be a criminal act. What made her do this? Who did she send the pics to? In a way I feel sorry for her, but on the same note, why did she do something this stupid?

This.

The school shouldn't get involved. The only way for it to be a school affair is uf either
A. She sent it to a teacher to get a good grade
Or
B. She sent it to EVERY STUDENTVAT SCHOOL.

And you've already confirmed neither condition is the case.

Well, it is a very bad thing, as she basically created child porn (If she is under 18 obviously, not sure if she is or not) and sending them to those people can get them into serious trouble, as they now poses child porn (Again, if It applies) Like thumper says, the school has right to get into it as she represents the school. Might be a little selfish, yeah, but still. It is a serious crime, and suspension is actually pretty low punishment for getting caught.

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Well, it is a very bad thing, as she basically created child porn (If she is under 18 obviously, not sure if she is or not) and sending them to those people can get them into serious trouble, as they now poses child porn (Again, if It applies) Like thumper says, the school has right to get into it as she represents the school. Might be a little selfish, yeah, but still. It is a serious crime, and suspension is actually pretty low punishment for getting caught.

This.

She posted child porn basically. Doesn't your school say not to do that though?

I think its not right at all.

**** your school

Like you said, it isn't the school's business, and I don't think they should be involved.

I agree with all the people saying it isn't the school's business.

The school could be worried that if she sends nude pics to people in other schools, she could send it to people in your school.

How did people find out about it anyways?

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She posted child porn basically. Doesn't your school say not to do that though?

she didn't do it AT school tho, did she?

If she distributed it, it's child porn, which is a criminal offense. Since she broke the law, the school kinda has to get involved. I can't say whether it's right or wrong, but it's the law.

If child porn is involved, it makes perfect sense for the school to do something about it. :/

Well if the students went to the same school then I could understand them taking action in the situation even if it wasn't done at school. Like at my job I can get fired for posting anything negative about my work or anything to do with the people who work there on Facebook, even if I do it at home, but the fact that they don't go to that school doesn't really make sense. It's kind of like someone committing a crime in Mexico and then the USA tries to punish them for it. I don't think the school should get involved as it's not a school matter, but rather her parents should take action. There might be more to the story then she has let on, but from what you know and have said, I don't agree with the school wanting to suspend her for something that didn't take place in school.

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I think her parents should get involved with her actions, not the school. That would be like my neighbor yelling at me for stepping in my other neighbors yard. It's dumb.

pretty much this

No, the school has nothing to do with this. They should mind their own business.

If anyone gets suspended, it should be the people bullying her.

Why would she even do that? Did they pressure her or something? Where they her friends of random people?

School should get out of her business though.

If stuff like this gets back to campus somehow, it can go under disrupting the learning of other students

Oh, yeah, can't believe I forgot this.

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So, last year, near the end of the school year, some girl, in our school, sent a BUNCH of pics of herself, not just to some people who didn't go to our school, but, EVERY SINGLE guy she he ever dated, and even some others.

Long story short, if ot had been like that, THEN, and only then, should've the school got involved.

Do you go to a public or private school? Because that's a big thing here.


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I don't think she should get suspended, however the school does have a right to get involved. You must understand that she is a student that is representing your school. To send those pics to students at another school, disrespects your school.

Yeah.

My brother got expelled from his old school because he hacked someone's Facebook account and posted about bombing somewhere. After the police found out it was him and arrested him, the administrators expelled him even though it had nothing to do with their school. Funny enough, the school relocated soon after.

When you commit a criminal offense, the school is legally obligated to do something about it. Though I don't think your brother should've been expelled (he obviously wasn't serious about it), the school was not in the wrong by taking action.

Distributing the nude pictures counts as child porn, which is a felony. I don't know if she should be expelled or suspended, but the school should definitely get involved.

Did you ever consider the fact that parents CAN say weather or not they want the school involved? At least in my area anyways.


However, I do think she should be given some sort of punishment. "You commit a crime, you do the time."

they are her pictures, the only victim here is herself

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how old was she?

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Do you go to a public or private school? Because that's a big thing here.


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I don't think she should get suspended, however the school does have a right to get involved. You must understand that she is a student that is representing your school. To send those pics to students at another school, disrespects your school.

Yeah.

My brother got expelled from his old school because he hacked someone's Facebook account and posted about bombing somewhere. After the police found out it was him and arrested him, the administrators expelled him even though it had nothing to do with their school. Funny enough, the school relocated soon after.

When you commit a criminal offense, the school is legally obligated to do something about it. Though I don't think your brother should've been expelled (he obviously wasn't serious about it), the school was not in the wrong by taking action.

Distributing the nude pictures counts as child porn, which is a felony. I don't know if she should be expelled or suspended, but the school should definitely get involved.

Public.

And today, I saw her cuts, they're all the way up her arm and :(

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Did you ever consider the fact that parents CAN say weather or not they want the school involved? At least in my area anyways.


However, I do think she should be given some sort of punishment. "You commit a crime, you do the time."

are you saying that she should be sent to jail for child porn?

Did you even understand my reasoning? I'm saying that if she does something wrong, she must pay a price.

The school should definitely get involved.

What she did could be considered against the law and as a student the school has a sort of obligation to handle the issue especially now that she has resorted to cutting herself (more on that later). I'm aware that schools usually shouldn't handle business that doesn't happen on school grounds but considering that she is being bullied for it and these pictures have found their way to the internet likely because of people in the school or people within the same school district, something has to be done and there should be punishment on both sides.

However, a suspension is not the right punishment for her, and seems more fitting for the people that spread it around and put it on the internet. Sending nudes would normally be worthy of something like a suspension but when it's spread out by other people in other schools, it became beyond her control (though of course she had the control to NOT send them in the first place). I suppose it depends on if she's the only one getting any sort of punishment.

People saying that the school is terrible for getting involved..........well............she sent nudes to people. And she's getting bullied. What do you expect to happen? Some might say that it should be left up to the parents to deal with, but if she's getting harassed in school for it the parents are eventually going to turn to the school to handle the issue. The parents wouldn't be able to do anything that isn't in violation of either school policy or the law. And of course her parents aren't going to be able to get those nudes off the internet.

And like it or not, but if she's sending nudes to other people, she IS in some way disrespecting the school. And if the school did nothing and let other people handle it, it would send the message that the school in some way tolerates this sort of behavior. Of course they probably wouldn't, but not taking any sort of action says otherwise.

As for her cutting herself for this one incident, I think she's overreacting. It sounds as though all of this has developed within the past week and she has already decided that the bullying is so bad that she needs to harm herself and risk her life? Not to sound rude or terrible but................come on.
She needs to get help as soon as possible so that she doesn't continue this behavior and maybe move on from this whole ordeal. Her harming herself also makes it all the more necessary for the school to get involved and have her see the school counselor or therapist.

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She regrets it, as I've stated above, she doesn't really know what she was thinking when she sent them. And only a few people she said, she wouldn't give me names (not that they matter, but I could've counted them.)

Ok. She regrets it. But she still did it and this entire situation started with her choosing to send them to people.

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Yeah... call me heartless if you want, but I don't feel bad for people when they get themselves into situations like that. I mean, if she feels bad about it now, why didn't she think about that before doing it in the first place? You don't send nudes to a few different people without somebody somehow finding out. She's only 13 for God's sake, why was she even doing that in the first place?
I mean, I barely even knew what sex was at 13 and here she is sending nudes.......
What's wrong with today's generation? >.>

Technology.

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What's wrong with today's generation? >.>

Just don't forget that you are a part of this generation.

Otherwise I agree.

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What's wrong with today's generation? >.>

Just don't forget that you are a part of this generation.

Otherwise I agree.

Well I had an ex friend who did some dodgy stuff on webcam at that age and it got out. She was terribly bullied and had to move schools.

People don't let this kind of stuff live down. I'll be very surprised if that happens.

She'll probably end up having to move to a different school where no one knows her to start again. If not then be constantly depressed and bullied.

It was stupid of her to send them, but 13 year olds are easily influenced to do this kind of thing. Someone asked me when I was 13 and thought about it but decided not to.

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how old was she?

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13 :/

Public.

And today, I saw her cuts, they're all the way up her arm and

Who would want to see the tits of a 13 year old, bloody flat.

Anyway she'll regret the cutting as she'll have a load of scars up her arm for the rest of her life, ruining her skin. It will also be a constant reminder of what she did every time she sees them. Really stupid thing to do. I hope she doesn't want to be a model or actress.