darkSpyro

and him still being your boyfriend or girlfriend or whatever the case maybe be is that too long should they be married already or you don t think so

Even 7+ years is way too long imo. I think marriage within a 5 yearish time period would be best.

that would be a good additional question if your answer is "too long" or even "too short" i guess then what do you think is the point when marriage should already be a thing what amount of years

eh i don't really care. i think it depends on the situation. if neither of them want to get married, that's chill. if one wants to get married and the other doesn't, that's where i can see problems happening.

Marriage is unnecessary and you should never let yourself feel pressured into it.

technically by law you're married by that time. marriage shouldnt be a thing you need to do.

The idea that there is a point where you're expected to be married is BS. If you wanna date someone for an insanely long period, go for it. If you two never wanna get married and just wanna be dating forever, go for it. I'm nearly at 8 years with my current SO and we aren't even engaged and it don't foresee us getting engaged any time in the near future. It doesn't invalidate our relationship. We don't need to be married for it to be "real" after a certain period of time. I wouldn't be against marriage if he brought it up, but if he wants to continue like this, that's 100% fine too. Assigning a new term to it doesn't make it different in my eyes. Call it dating, call it marriage. Call him my boyfriend, call him my husband. He's still him. No term change will change who he is or how we feel about each other. And its ridiculous to assign a timer to couple to get married.

gonna finally reply to this but a quick bump so i dont for get when i wake up tomorrow which is really just later on this afternoon

eve though i took forever thank you guys for replying i just wanted some other viewpoints

Quote: ThunderEgg

eh i don't really care. i think it depends on the situation. if neither of them want to get married, that's chill. if one wants to get married and the other doesn't, that's where i can see problems happening.

yeah i think when theres miscommunication about that theres a problem but otherwise there shouldnt be what i get a lot is like "why arent you married yet?" "arent you guys supposed to love each other?" from third parties but im just like... maybe neither wants it for whatever reason

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Marriage is unnecessary and you should never let yourself feel pressured into it.

thank you!

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technically by law you're married by that time. marriage shouldnt be a thing you need to do.

theres actually a lot of laws and rules around that though isnt there? if you mean common law marriage? like you have to have lived together for a certain amount of time not just been together too

Quote: Shadow-Cipher

The idea that there is a point where you're expected to be married is BS. If you wanna date someone for an insanely long period, go for it. If you two never wanna get married and just wanna be dating forever, go for it. I'm nearly at 8 years with my current SO and we aren't even engaged and it don't foresee us getting engaged any time in the near future. It doesn't invalidate our relationship. We don't need to be married for it to be "real" after a certain period of time. I wouldn't be against marriage if he brought it up, but if he wants to continue like this, that's 100% fine too. Assigning a new term to it doesn't make it different in my eyes. Call it dating, call it marriage. Call him my boyfriend, call him my husband. He's still him. No term change will change who he is or how we feel about each other. And its ridiculous to assign a timer to couple to get married.

i loved this post so much theres really nothing i can add these are my thoughts exactly except worded much better than i could have thank you!


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so pretty much what Shadow-Cipher said i dont think marriage is necessary or changes anything about the relationship ive never really been a big wedding girl myself i mean... when i was little yeah okay... but its never been like a need my need is more like someone who ould be that husband as a person but titles and pieces of paper mean nothing to me or the ceremony i am not against it and i could maybe see it happening one day but it would be more a formality i think