darkSpyro

everything is going wrong!!!! Why must my life be so painful :"(

cool.

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cool.

RUDE.

What's wrong?

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What's wrong?

Everything

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What's wrong?

Everything

It'll get better!

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What's wrong?

Everything

It'll get better!

No it wont.

It usually does, even if it takes awhile.

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It usually does, even if it takes awhile.

It won't if people refuse to change (before someone says "Oh this is just darkspyro whining GET OVER IT" it's not just darkspyro so be quiet! )

mind telling us what your problem is so we can maybe try to help you?

If you're going to post this as an actual topic and not in PT then I suggest actually telling us what's wrong so people can help and not calling people rude and getting pissy at those that are trying to help

I'm all types of disaster. I feel like my friends only want to hang out when it's during school (which guess what, I no longer have so that's gone), that sometimes I take things too seriously or not serious enough, I accidentally had inappropriate thumbnails leaked on an family friendly youtube channel because I forgot to private my liked videos which caused someone to lose trust in me because I exposed those watching the livestream to such material, I have an alcoholic parent, and I am too emotional.

^ Trust me when I say it will get better in time. You may not believe it, but it will.

Alcholic parent, even if they never get past that, it gets better for you at least when you move out to go to college or whatever.

Friends only want to hang out at school, yeah, been there. Eventually you'll meet real friends who don't want to hang out in other times. Took awhile, but it came for me and I truly believe it'll come for you.

I'm not sure what the exactly is going on with the youtube thing, but I don't believe it is the end of the world. You don't have the police busting down your door for showing kids pornography, and it sounds like you only lost someone's trust. Yes, that sucks, don't get me wrong. But if the person truly mattered to you and if you truly matter to them, you can earn it back. It'll take time and lots of work, but you can.

Taking things too seriously/not serious, it happens at times for many people. Not everyone can always read the situation right. Sure, it feels bad when you read it wrong, but it'll be ok so log as you're not making jokes out of something like cancer. Just try to really work on reading situations or thinking before you speak. It isn't the end of the world though.

As for being emotional, you're what, 17? Hormones are a thing. My answer for emotions was to always bottle them up. Not exactly good advice as it leads to issues later on or just plain going crazy. Hopefully someone else in this topic has better advice for this one.

As someone whose been over emotional her whole childhood, my best advice is to do something that makes you happy/calm down

The only one who can improve things is you.

But you have to want to do it.

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The only one who can improve things is you.

But you have to want to do it.

Thiiiis so much.

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The only one who can improve things is you.

But you have to want to do it.

So let me get this straight

It's my fault my friends only hang out with me at school (when I still had to go to school)
It's my fault that I take things too seriously (Ummm no it's not, I literally don't notice till it's gone too far and I don't ever know when it's going to happen.)
It's my fault that I ACCIDENTALLY got inappropriate thumbnails on a youtubers livestream
It's my fault I have an alcoholic father
It's my fault I was born really emotional


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The only one who can improve things is you.

But you have to want to do it.

So let me get this straight

It's my fault my friends only hang out with me at school (when I still had to go to school)
It's my fault that I take things too seriously (Ummm no it's not, I literally don't notice till it's gone too far and I don't ever know when it's going to happen.)
It's my fault that I ACCIDENTALLY got inappropriate thumbnails on a youtubers livestream
It's my fault I have an alcoholic father
It's my fault I was born really emotional


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@bolded thats kinda ur fault tbh,

that's not what we're saying though.

We're saying that YOU*pokes stomach* have to make your own changes instead of lying around and being mopey about it.

This is why i don't try to help you.

You turn everything i say to you into a negative and then make out you're being persecuted.

I give up.

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Quote: Greeble

The only one who can improve things is you.

But you have to want to do it.

So let me get this straight

It's my fault my friends only hang out with me at school (when I still had to go to school)
It's my fault that I take things too seriously (Ummm no it's not, I literally don't notice till it's gone too far and I don't ever know when it's going to happen.)
It's my fault that I ACCIDENTALLY got inappropriate thumbnails on a youtubers livestream
It's my fault I have an alcoholic father
It's my fault I was born really emotional


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Jesus dude, Greeble was just trying to help you. And he's ****ing right.
You can't do nothing and expect everything around you to change. You have to make the effort to change.
Go out, go to college, meet new people, talk to a counselor about your father and your problems, use incognito mode on youtube (that's what I do )

Just do things to better yourself and keep moving forward. Things aren't gonna change overnight. All my High School friends were assholes who dont hang out with me now, I didn't like who i was, I was overly annoying, didn't care about my appearance, etc.
Now I have tons of friends and because I know what's wrong I've changed it and I'm happier

Tbh I feel like Greeble deserves an apology cuz you made this topic, opened yourself up to opinions which you were p much asking for and are getting angry at the advice you dislike or don't understand. Right now you're being the asshole when everyone here is just trying to help you because we want to help.

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Quote: Greeble

The only one who can improve things is you.

But you have to want to do it.

So let me get this straight

It's my fault my friends only hang out with me at school (when I still had to go to school)
It's my fault that I take things too seriously (Ummm no it's not, I literally don't notice till it's gone too far and I don't ever know when it's going to happen.)
It's my fault that I ACCIDENTALLY got inappropriate thumbnails on a youtubers livestream
It's my fault I have an alcoholic father
It's my fault I was born really emotional


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Jesus dude, Greeble was just trying to help you. And he's ****ing right.
You can't do nothing and expect everything around you to change. You have to make the effort to change.
Go out, go to college, meet new people, talk to a counselor about your father and your problems, use incognito mode on youtube (that's what I do )

Just do things to better yourself and keep moving forward. Things aren't gonna change overnight. All my High School friends were assholes who dont hang out with me now, I didn't like who i was, I was overly annoying, didn't care about my appearance, etc.
Now I have tons of friends and because I know what's wrong I've changed it and I'm happier

Tbh I feel like Greeble deserves an apology cuz you made this topic, opened yourself up to opinions which you were p much asking for and are getting angry at the advice you dislike or don't understand. Right now you're being the asshole when everyone here is just trying to help you because we want to help.

ARE YOU EVEN READING WHAT YOUR POSTING!!!!!!!?

Sometimes life sucks, and that's not your fault. I promise, it's not your fault. Some things might be, but your dad being alcoholic? Not your fault. Born very emotional? Not your fault either. Sometimes life is just out of your control, and I'm sorry that you feel so upset. I would be too. My dad was an alcoholic and left my mom and I when I was very young, I lived with my grandparents for a while just to be away from the violence. I hated him for what he did to my mom, and he ended up in prison for an unrelated charge. Now I'm an adult and we have a good relationship. He got out of prison and got sobered up, and I forgave him because I went 16 years without a dad, and when he was there, he wasn't a very good one, and I wanted a relationship with him, so I forgave him, because that's what I had to do. Not saying that's at all like your situation, if he's still doing it, I'd suggest talking to a school counselor or someone else that can help. The point is, sometimes you can do things to fix it, sometimes you can't. But no matter what, it's not your fault. I promise.

I just don't get why you think Greeble was saying it's your ****ing fault, he's not an asshole he wouldn't do that. He said only you can change ****, and it's true. Dunno what about my post pissed you off aha.

I wanted to help but screw it, this is your problem windumup, you treat everyone who is trying to help like they're some terrible person who wants to wrong you, you need to open your eyes and realize people aren't victimizing you.

You guys aren't making it any better

you're making it worse for yourself by throwing a hissy fit over people trying to help you lol

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You guys aren't making it any better

Oh well I tried

*worlds smallest violin plays in the background*


If you want things to change, at least make an effort.

Don't push away the people trying to help you, that's already a huge mistake.

No offense to you, but you really need to listen to what these guys are saying. You can't ask for advice and then push them away when they try to help you. It's like asking a waiter at a restaurant for water, and then pushing it off the table on purpose when he brings it to you. It's unfair to us, and it's not really helping you out, either.

Y'ever hear the phrase "don't bite the hand that feeds you"? You're chomping on that hand pretty hard, not gonna lie. Because I'm bored, I'm just gonna dissect your points one by one:

It's my fault my friends only hang out with me at school (when I still had to go to school)

While that is lame, Lunarz is right in saying that you can make new (and hopefully better) friends by changing yourself, most people aren't out to get you or make you suffer, I'm sure people want to see you succeed and get out of this rut you've made for yourself. You'll make better friends, or if the friends aren't the issue, why not just reach out to them?
It's my fault that I take things too seriously (Ummm no it's not, I literally don't notice till it's gone too far and I don't ever know when it's going to happen.)
You've got to learn how to read the atmosphere, now I'm not sure if this is just something you've accquired, or you have some form of thing that makes it hard to do that (no offense, I assure you), but maybe make a conscious effort and say to yourself "I wonder what the situation is, what has been said and what can I say to ensure that this goes as smoothly as possible?" Social interactions aren't gonna be easy, and you'll have to push yourself through them, but it makes you a better person and more able to deal with individuals.
It's my fault that I ACCIDENTALLY got inappropriate thumbnails on a youtubers livestream
Yeah....That kinda is your fault, this is the net and you can't expect everyone to have the same etiquite as you do, Incognito Mode is definitely something you should look into.
It's my fault I have an alcoholic father
Nah, it's not, but you aren't defined by your blood. My step-bro never finished college and dropped out, but that doesn't mean I can resign myself to failure. If you spend all that time moping around, you'll never be able to prove you're not him, that you're better than him. While it is okay to lament and grieve, it isn't the end of the world, because if you let it consume you, it's just one big slippery slope of self deprication and feelings of worthlessness. You can do it, I assure you. I don't mean to say that your problems are insignificant and other people have come back from worse, but it's through tireless dedication that you can break free of these imaginary shackles and unlock your true potential.
It's my fault I was born really emotional

I'm gonna use the same logic as above for this one, emotions are fine, but defining yourself as "really emotional" doesn't seem to give the view that you're actively trying and willing to change. And hey, I might be wrong, and I hope I'm wrong, but if your way of coping is to lash out against other people that genuinely want to help you, then there's not much anyone can do. The first step has to come from yourself, just think about that for a while.

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Y'ever hear the phrase "don't bite the hand that feeds you"? You're chomping on that hand pretty hard, not gonna lie. Because I'm bored, I'm just gonna dissect your points one by one:

It's my fault my friends only hang out with me at school (when I still had to go to school)

While that is lame, Lunarz is right in saying that you can make new (and hopefully better) friends by changing yourself, most people aren't out to get you or make you suffer, I'm sure people want to see you succeed and get out of this rut you've made for yourself. You'll make better friends, or if the friends aren't the issue, why not just reach out to them?
It's my fault that I take things too seriously (Ummm no it's not, I literally don't notice till it's gone too far and I don't ever know when it's going to happen.)
You've got to learn how to read the atmosphere, now I'm not sure if this is just something you've accquired, or you have some form of thing that makes it hard to do that (no offense, I assure you), but maybe make a conscious effort and say to yourself "I wonder what the situation is, what has been said and what can I say to ensure that this goes as smoothly as possible?" Social interactions aren't gonna be easy, and you'll have to push yourself through them, but it makes you a better person and more able to deal with individuals.
It's my fault that I ACCIDENTALLY got inappropriate thumbnails on a youtubers livestream
Yeah....That kinda is your fault, this is the net and you can't expect everyone to have the same etiquite as you do, Incognito Mode is definitely something you should look into.
It's my fault I have an alcoholic father
Nah, it's not, but you aren't defined by your blood. My step-bro never finished college and dropped out, but that doesn't mean I can resign myself to failure. If you spend all that time moping around, you'll never be able to prove you're not him, that you're better than him. While it is okay to lament and grieve, it isn't the end of the world, because if you let it consume you, it's just one big slippery slope of self deprication and feelings of worthlessness. You can do it, I assure you. I don't mean to say that your problems are insignificant and other people have come back from worse, but it's through tireless dedication that you can break free of these imaginary shackles and unlock your true potential.
It's my fault I was born really emotional

I'm gonna use the same logic as above for this one, emotions are fine, but defining yourself as "really emotional" doesn't seem to give the view that you're actively trying and willing to change. And hey, I might be wrong, and I hope I'm wrong, but if your way of coping is to lash out against other people that genuinely want to help you, then there's not much anyone can do. The first step has to come from yourself, just think about that for a while.

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1. I have never met a friend outside of internet friends (barely count, while a human does exist behind the screen I am not aware of what they look like unless there is some kind of "post a picture of yourself" thread and even then I look at those pictures and quickly forget what they look like)
2. Yes, I have a disability that affects me in this way. But I am not going to blame it
3. I was pretty sure I had my youtube settings to not show liked videos and I even forgot I liked the 2 videos that were inappropriate. (video set up to auto play less then like 20 seconds before the moment it happened)

4. What's even worst is that while my mom wants to leave, she can't bring herself to do it.
5. It's more of the lines that whatever I am feeling can be either neutral (I can't think of an example, but pretty much an indifference to whats going on) or very strong and deep.

People are saying Windumup is being an ungrateful asshole about this stuff even though their initial response to Greeble's advice wasn't even that angry. They didn't get on edge until someone else took that response and said "wow you're being an asshole go apologize now".

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Windumup you need to sit down with your mother and really talk about your abusive alcoholic father. Assuming that you guys have already tried to get him to stop (via interventions or whatever it be), it's now for the best that you and your family get out of there ASAP. I feel as though this is the biggest problem impacting you right now, and everything else is just thrown on top of it or exaggerated because of it (e.g. your father being abusive makes you feel isolated and alone, which makes the lack of friends even more apparent than it would already be).

It's the toughest problem to deal with and the one most out of your control (and it's absolutely not your fault), but it's the one that most needs to be dealt with.

Also I believe myself or someone else mentioned that should your father go on an abusive tirade you should at the very least record the audio and present it to police later on as proof of what's going on. If your mother can't leave him on her own power, law enforcement can make him leave through arrest.

It honestly seems to me that you would rather have people comfort you and tell you everything's alright than give you actual advice on how to change your situation.

It's not unusual. I do it too sometimes.


But just think about that.

^ Could a mod delete chibi's comment? It's not needed in the thread

Also chibi (unless you refuse to read any forum posts now that you got gnorc'd) you do realize I am a girl right? (At the "Grow a pair" and "man up" comment)
Also beat my dad up? You do realize if I did beat him up I would still get charged for assault (no, it doesn't count as self defense to fight someone who is drunk unless they ACTUALLY attempt to kill you.) That and he is much much stronger then me so I can't even hurt him.

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^ Could a mod delete chibi's comment? It's not needed in the thread

Also chibi (unless you refuse to read any forum posts now that you got gnorc'd) you do realize I am a girl right? (At the "Grow a pair" and "man up" comment)
Also beat my dad up? You do realize if I did beat him up I would still get charged for assault (no, it doesn't count as self defense to fight someone who is drunk unless they ACTUALLY attempt to kill you.) That and he is much much stronger then me so I can't even hurt him.

Grow a pair and man up are used by every one to every one, regardless of gender.

But I agree, his comment was harsh.

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^ Could a mod delete chibi's comment? It's not needed in the thread

Also chibi (unless you refuse to read any forum posts now that you got gnorc'd) you do realize I am a girl right? (At the "Grow a pair" and "man up" comment)
Also beat my dad up? You do realize if I did beat him up I would still get charged for assault (no, it doesn't count as self defense to fight someone who is drunk unless they ACTUALLY attempt to kill you.) That and he is much much stronger then me so I can't even hurt him.

Okay so his comment was harsh but he wasn't wrong

First off, it really irks me whenever someone makes a comment hiking your male or that could be construed as so you feel the need to correct them, stop it. I've been mistaken for a girl before and I didn't care cuz it didn't matter to the situation so stop.

Secondly, I don't think you're a lawyer, cuz if someone, drunk or not, gets physical it's literal in the law that you're allowed to defend yourself, so yes you can fight back. Or what's even better, you can pick up a phone and call a police officer if you're I'm danger.

Yeah I'm being a bit of a jerk, a lot of people are, and that's cuz ou won't listen if we aren't, start taking our advice even by a bit and things will change

It's obvious you aren't looking for any real advice here, but I will say this: Nothing is going to change unless you make an effort to change them.

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^ Could a mod delete chibi's comment? It's not needed in the thread

Also chibi (unless you refuse to read any forum posts now that you got gnorc'd) you do realize I am a girl right? (At the "Grow a pair" and "man up" comment)
Also beat my dad up? You do realize if I did beat him up I would still get charged for assault (no, it doesn't count as self defense to fight someone who is drunk unless they ACTUALLY attempt to kill you.) That and he is much much stronger then me so I can't even hurt him.

Grow a pair and man up are used by every one to every one, regardless of gender.

But I agree, his comment was harsh.

Regardless it's more accurate to say "toughen up"

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^ Could a mod delete chibi's comment? It's not needed in the thread

Also chibi (unless you refuse to read any forum posts now that you got gnorc'd) you do realize I am a girl right? (At the "Grow a pair" and "man up" comment)
Also beat my dad up? You do realize if I did beat him up I would still get charged for assault (no, it doesn't count as self defense to fight someone who is drunk unless they ACTUALLY attempt to kill you.) That and he is much much stronger then me so I can't even hurt him.

Grow a pair and man up are used by every one to every one, regardless of gender.

But I agree, his comment was harsh.

Regardless it's more accurate to say "toughen up"

then toughen up.