darkSpyro

their expected to pass in July

I have been keeping it bottled up and not thinking of it, but I got an email from family saying I need to visit in fear of their final moments

It just dawned on me how real this is, I don't want to lose them

I'm so hurt deep down and want things to go the other way, I've been praying and praying and praying but the form of cancer is very aggressive and it pains me so much to think that the may be gone soon

it's said that if the time is right then they are building a safe heaven for us

but the time isn't right at all :'(

I've been an absolute wreck recently and I just don't know how or what I will do if I lose them

**** cancer

Just don't give up hope.

I know that sounds kinda cheesy and is way easier said than done, but don't lose it. Be cautiously optimistic, and hopefully whatever treatment they're going through will take care of it. Worse comes to worse, if the unspeakable happens, you have to try your very best to be optimistic. Be the light that the others around you need in this time of crisis.

Regardless of what happens, you need to keep moving forward. I know it's a grim diagnosis, but there's always a chance, right? Hold on to that chance. Don't let optimism or pessimism overtake you though, stay cautious. Even if these days are their last, show them bravery.

My regards to your sibling, yourself, and your family. This is a hard time, but I promise you'll make it through.

Basically, just as Strider said, keep hopeful. Don't write them off just yet. Even in the darkest of times, keep faith that things might still turn out ok.

That said, spend as much time as you can with them. In the event the worst does come, you don't want any regrets. Seeing you there and trying to be optimistic with them may help give them hope as well.

my sister had cancer for 2 years, but from the start there was a 95% chance of survival. but even then each day was emotionally numb; and still a little bit to this day. don't know what i would do if it was a fatal disease.

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Don't feed the obvious troll.

Anyway, I'm sorry for your soon to be loss. I know how it feels to lose a loved one from cancer, since I did just a month ago.
The best you can do is to go there and be the last loving face they can see. Cancer is a hard battle to win, but you must stay strong. Stay hopeful about the future. Don't keep their memory in vain and love who you can. Because you won't know how much you do until they're gone. That's what I learned in these recent events. Stay strong, friend.

It really is hard to deal with cancer, I know its not the exact same, but I lost my dog to cancer a few months ago and the loss was beyond painful. I really do hope the best for you and your sibling. If you ever want to talk you can come to me.

I'm so sorry to hear that. I don't know you very well, but I honestly believe that you have a fine family and you don't deserve this.

Just spend the time you can with your sibling. Be there for them through all of the medical twists and turns. Human life is a fragile, fleeting thing, but human love is an eternal, extraordinary force. Make use of that in the time that you still have.

And I know it may be a bit too late for this, but miracles do happen. Don't give up until it's over.

I'm sorry that I can offer much help but try to stay positive and spend time with them the worst thing is trying to shove them away and trying to ignore tragity cause afterwards pain can still linger and can be worse so instead stick with them.

Drown out the sadness in all of the things that you love. Music, TV Shows, YouTube channels, etc. Cry if you need to...

I'm sorry to hear about this... I know coping with this is difficult, and I wish I had more to add than what was already said. Please do be optimistic, and spend as much time as you can with your sibling and your family. Don't bottle up your emotions either; don't be afraid to cry if you need to.

My regards and condolences to you and your family. If you ever need to vent, please know that many of us at dS are here for you.

I've been through a similar situation GarbageMemes101. My sister was diagnosed with an aggressive bone cancer a couple years back, with a 20-30% chance of survival. And even though she seems to be getting better, it still feels impossible to believe she might make it, because cancer can and usually does come back. You see all these other kids with the same disease who don't make it, sometimes after spending years thinking that they've beaten it, and you think "will she really be one of the few to beat the odds?"

I feel like everyone is getting cancer these days. Hell, I wouldn't be surprised to find out I had cancer right now, if I had the money to afford a cancer screening. You just never know.

Thanks for the love and support, guys. It really means a lot.

I have not spoken about this to anyone IRL. I took an emergency leave from work, and decided to visit them. As soon as I walked into the hospital, I really realized how real his was and started bawling outside of the ICU unit. I couldn't handle seeing them like that, you know?

I couldn't stop crying, either. It was horrible. One of my siblings had to end up grabbing me and giving me a pep talk on how they would probably love to see me, and how they didn't have much time left. I eventually sucked it up, and really tried to stay strong. I walked in, waved to them, and got they pointed back and waved (they have a hole in their neck, and cannot talk). They hardly had any strength at all, and would always fall back asleep. They would try to read their favorite magazine about their favorite sports team, but after looking at a page they would fall asleep again.

It's heart crushing. Their previous Dr was surprised they were still alive.

I'm so ****ing crushed right now. I just want them back, and for things to be normal again. Like, why the heck did it have to end like this? They're suffering, and they never did a thing wrong in this world. They're in so much pain, it makes me feel miserable. I feel so bad for them, and want them to feel better. I would go out to lunch, and all I would think about is wishing that they could be here.

I can't imagine not having them as a living sibling anymore. It's heart-crushing and making me feel so depressed.

using "them" and "they" for privacy reasons...

**** cancer.

Coincidentally, my boyfriend was diagnosed with cancer a few months ago and is expected to have about 6 months left, so I know a bit about how you feel. It's.. not easy to accept, nor will it ever be, but it's important to try to remain optimistic for their sake as much as yours.