darkSpyro

story time

I have a coworker and he is a total bro. his room mate, let's call her Sabrina, she is incredibly pretty.

Him, me, and her are tight. I decided to finally tell my friend that I had feelings for his room mate, but I told him I'd forget all about it if it were to ruin my friendship with him or have him hate me. He was actually really happy and told me to go for it. That made me really ecstatic.

So I help this Sabrina all the time with work (she works in another dept.) and she vents to me and really enjoys talking to me versus other people that try to talk to her. This makes me feel pretty good, tbh. We've had a fair share of good nights just talking personally many times.

I took my friend/coworkers advice, and asked for her number. She said "nah, I'd probably bother you and send you stupid cat videos"

That sort of shut me up and hurt a lot, because I knew that was flat out a rejection. I went ahead and finished working in her dept. and left.

I went ahead and texted my friend/coworker and told him about what happen. Apparently, when his roomate Sabrina came home, she told him and laughed about it. He told me that. Made me feel pretty bad.

Although, apparently she was having a bad day and she blew some steam at my friend. So whatever.

I arrive to work and she always tries to grab my attention. I just nod or don't even respond. I don't want to talk to her, she made me feel bad. I thought things could have at least worked out?

Hour or two passes on, and she tries to grab my attention again. I nod, and tell her I'm busy (when we weren't).

Eventually by closing time she asks if I have trash she can take (I work in a large super store), and I pointed to where it was. She then proceeded to ask if I needed help (when I never do), and I said no. She then was about to tell me a story or something, idek what it was, but as soon as she opened her mouth, I told her I was going to go to break. She said that I should help her with the trash and then go to break, but I declined and said I needed to speak to somebody urgently. It was very obvious that I was pissed at her and didn't want to talk.

I come back from break, and she asks me how break was. I nodded and said it was good. One of my other co workers aske something, and naturally, I'm full of energy and ecstatic. Sabrina notices this and takes me to the cooler in her dept. and asks me why I'm so pissy.

Djakbdiandoqnisoqbsoadjoajd (isn't it obvious)

I blamed it on some other things and she said "is that all?" And I said I was pissed at a few things and certain people. Mistake. Now she wants to know who. ****. I BS'd my way through that one. Sabrina them decided throughout all night to just talk to me and wanna hang out. Like what the hell. At this point I think the other night she may gave been joking about the texting thing. Maybe I should ask her again.

Nah, forget it. I feel bad because I honestly do think that she does/did like me and I may have made her feel bad all night, but what is her problem? Yeah, she's pretty, but she's sort of misleading.

Am I in the wrong here? I was so upset and felt a little used. I feel like asking for her number at a later time, but I'll probably be told the same thing. Maybe I'm being played, idfk. She's hot as hell and I really like her, and I was sure that she liked me too...

Don't think about it so much. Let it fall into place and do what feels right.


But the fact that you ARE thinking so much is a rather good sign. I'm happy for you.

If at any point a person ever makes you feel terrible about yourself, it's not worth it

^ I didn't hear anything she did to hurt his feelings. Sounds like he did a poor job of communicating.

You're wrong that you didn't make your feelings known. You elaborated on all of the bs of this story, but how did you bring up you'd like to chill with her? I bet she still doesn't know how you feel. If your comeback to her sending you cat videos was "That doesnt' matter, I love spending time with you--seriously....can we date sometime?" I think she would snap out of her silly streak.

However, whenever you "put yourself out there", you have to be prepared for the answer you don't want. Speaking of which, have you prepared staying just friends if she says no? If not, maybe you guys are better off just being friends.

But did you get a threesome? What, I'm 15.

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^ I didn't hear anything she did to hurt his feelings. Sounds like he did a poor job of communicating.

You're wrong that you didn't make your feelings known. You elaborated on all of the bs of this story, but how did you bring up you'd like to chill with her? I bet she still doesn't know how you feel. If your comeback to her sending you cat videos was "That doesnt' matter, I love spending time with you--seriously....can we date sometime?" I think she would snap out of her silly streak.

However, whenever you "put yourself out there", you have to be prepared for the answer you don't want. Speaking of which, have you prepared staying just friends if she says no? If not, maybe you guys are better off just being friends.

I posted this around midnight, its not the full story. Yeah, I had mentioned before that I would like to hang out.

That response to her you made up is creepy however. I wouldn't go that far.

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Quote: GhostRoaster

^ I didn't hear anything she did to hurt his feelings. Sounds like he did a poor job of communicating.

You're wrong that you didn't make your feelings known. You elaborated on all of the bs of this story, but how did you bring up you'd like to chill with her? I bet she still doesn't know how you feel. If your comeback to her sending you cat videos was "That doesnt' matter, I love spending time with you--seriously....can we date sometime?" I think she would snap out of her silly streak.

However, whenever you "put yourself out there", you have to be prepared for the answer you don't want. Speaking of which, have you prepared staying just friends if she says no? If not, maybe you guys are better off just being friends.

I posted this around midnight, its not the full story. Yeah, I had mentioned before that I would like to hang out.

That response to her you made up is creepy however. I wouldn't go that far.

It only seems creepy because we've conditioned ourselves over time to constantly worry about being creepy. That response wouldn't have been creepy at all, you already spend a lot of time with her, and she might not have realized you wanted her number for anything serious. The two of you are already friends, so she might have just thought you wanted her number as a friend.

I know it's tough and I never was able to take my own advice on this sort of thing but here it is: you can't beat around the bush with this. You have to be upfront. Imagine for a moment that a friend that you even sort of like came up to you and asked you out. Wouldn't that feel good even if you weren't particularly interested in going on a date with them? Wouldn't it be fun to have a sort of special night even you don't end up developing an even deeper relationship? Yes, it would be a little awkward if such was the case, but now imagine you were asked out by a friend you were particularly interested in. You can't know which case you fit into with this girl and the only way to know is to actually ask her.

Okay, let's go back to what you actually did with this girl. Now imagine that person you were interested in just happened to bring up wanting your phone number one day. What would you think of that? Do you think they'd actually ask you out after they got your number? Or would you just use it to talk to them a little bit more, but never actually spend any more time together? They might have wanted to ask you out but were so nervous about actually getting your number that the relief of getting it makes them not want to "rush" things. I seriously think this happens all the time.

The girl you like might be considering this and just didn't want the sort of disappointment that comes from having the phone number of the person you like, but neither them nor you have the courage to actually ask the other out on a date.

Obviously I can't know anything for sure. I could be completely wrong and she could just not be interested in you, but unless you actually ask her out, you're never really going to know.

Most people are content with never really knowing. Ignorance is bliss and all. So it's not like anyone is going to judge you if you do give up now. You'll get over the "probably a rejection" in time, and you each will probably end up with someone else later in life.

Good luck with whatever decision you do make~

honestly it sounds like you should have just come out and told her what's wrong, it's not like she can read your mind.

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honestly it sounds like you should have just come out and told her what's wrong, it's not like she can read your mind.

This!

Lol reading that made you sound like a little kid

No offense

I honestly think this was bad communication on your part.

I honestly don't think she meant anything bad by "nah, i'll probably just send you stupid cat videos".

You also should have come out to her about what was wrong.

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I honestly think this was bad communication on your part.

I honestly don't think she meant anything bad by "nah, i'll probably just send you stupid cat videos".

You also should have come out to her about what was wrong.

I agree with this.
How you describe it kind of sounds like you're whining.

buy a fedora

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buy a fedora

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That response to her you made up is creepy however. I wouldn't go that far.

You wouldn't go so far as to ask her out on a date? What are you complaining about then? You're getting exactly what you are asking for. My example response was an attempt for you in being honest with her. All I got from your initial response i you playing mental games and acting frustrated/immature. Own up to your feelings and be honest. The gist of my comment was "hang out" is what you guys do already, so it's clear to me she's confused on your intent. Word it anyway you like, but there's clearly a communication gap. Sounds like you need to be friends as you can't be in a relationship if you can't be honest/true with yourself. If however she was making fun of your advances to others then discuss it with her. Either way she'll know where you stand. If you've historically held back you'll be limited in your options if you do more of the same. The definition of madness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results - Einstein.

Anyway, not sure if you're old / mature enough to handle any advice, so I'm done. Good luck.

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Quote: zer0dch

That response to her you made up is creepy however. I wouldn't go that far.

You wouldn't go so far as to ask her out on a date? What are you complaining about then? You're getting exactly what you are asking for. My example response was an attempt for you in being honest with her. All I got from your initial response i you playing mental games and acting frustrated/immature. Own up to your feelings and be honest. The gist of my comment was "hang out" is what you guys do already, so it's clear to me she's confused on your intent. Word it anyway you like, but there's clearly a communication gap. Sounds like you need to be friends as you can't be in a relationship if you can't be honest/true with yourself. If however she was making fun of your advances to others then discuss it with her. Either way she'll know where you stand. If you've historically held back you'll be limited in your options if you do more of the same. The definition of madness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results - Einstein.

Anyway, not sure if you're old / mature enough to handle any advice, so I'm done. Good luck.

Einstein may or may not have actually said that at any point in time.

http://www.news.hypercrit.net/...didnt-say-that/

Well then.

She randomly gave me her digits and wants to chill.

Quote: zer0dch

Well then.

She randomly gave me her digits and wants to chill.

Maybe your friend that is roommates with her ended up telling her what's up.

I don't think so. 0-0