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Quote: zer0dch in PT topic

I am indeed saving my virginity for someone special. Hell, I'm going to go as far and say that I really don't want to have sex with my girlfriend until we're in a committed relationship (as if she were my fiance or we were married). I know its unrealistic, and I suppose I can get behind the drinking standard (however, I don't drink. At all)...

That happens to be a post I just made in PT...but I wanted to bring more attention to the discussion of possible futures and raising a family. I really wonder if anyone else feels this way?

Pregnancy scares me, man. I DON'T want to have kids. I don't even want the risk of having kids. I'm going to flat out and say this. Obviously when I'm married in the future, my wife and I will have our "moments", but I'd definitely plan ahead. Accidental birth, pregnancy in general...its not something I could handle. I more than likely won't be married until my late twenties or early thirties, so of course my opinion can change. Although, tons of my friends around me always say they want kids in the future. I definitely do not, and I think that will stay with me over time. The idea of me raising a kid and settling down...no thank you. I don't even party. All I do is sit in my room and play games and browse the internet. I like it this way. I'm a child at heart.

I don't know if it matters or not, but I also happen to be the youngest in the family. I really don't like watching over my own cousins and their friends. They're usually either brats or too loud. Hell, even my own sister makes me not want to ever have kids. She has got to be one of the most manipulative and abusive people I know. Apparently, my female cousin is just the same way. If I ever have kids, I don't have that choice of it being a male or female. I'd much rather have a boy if I ever have kids...but I don't even want to have kids at all!

I never want kids. I'm a child at heart myself. I want to be able to live my adulthood without the expenses of anyone but myself and my wife. I want to have some breathing air...

Perhaps its under the influence of my parents, too. My parents love me, yet I see my Dad once a year. I know he's busy flying around all the time, but I miss him. And my Mom isn't the greatest parent...I don't know.

I just don't ever want to have kids.

Yeah, I have no intention of ever having kids either. They're way too much commitment and responsibility for me to ever have to deal with. Marriage is the same deal as kids for me, it's just not going to happen.

Eh, on the fence. There are positives...and there are negatives...

Though I have the time to think about this. A loooooooooong time.

Plus that would require being married for legal purposes and I definitely don't want to do that. For now.

I'm 21 and I'm pretty sure I don't want kids. I've considered getting a vasectomy even, but I'm put off by the relative permanence of the procedure.

I should keep researching into the subject of intra-vas devices I discovered a few weeks ago. There were some articles in 2006 about a study happening but nothing since then has shown up, which sucks. That would be so nice to have a highly-effective and completely reversible procedure for a contraceptive.

They have so many ways to stop women from getting pregnant but so few ways to stop men from getting women pregnant. More options and choices is a really good thing to have in this case.

I've thought about it, and if I do, which I'm not sure about yet, no more than 2.

Still debating it but currently leaning towards not wanting them at all. And if I ever do, the soonest would probably be very late 20s going into early 30s. I'd like to live and enjoy my life for a while before being bogged down by parenthood.

Quote: Mesuxelf

I've thought about it, and if I do, which I'm not sure about yet, no more than 2.

Well, you're fifteen, aren't you? Don't worry about it.

Don't be a stupid **** and knock a girl up like two of my "friends" did. One was 19, knocked up a 15 year old (good going, idiot. why even date a fifteen year old?) and is now a registered sex offender and registered pedophile.

The other "friend" knocked up this women because he was really into unprotected sex. He absolutely didn't want to have kids. However, fortunately, he loves his child and says its a real blessing. Although, he ruined whatever social life he could have in his twenties. Don't get me wrong though, he loves raising his kid and I'm sure he would have it no other way. He just happens to be constantly broke and can't afford college.

I lost faith in friend 1 and don't speak to him anyone. He really started ruining whatever life he had in our senior year of high school. Its a shame too, he was an awesome close friend of mine. Friend 2 was always more of an acquaintance. However, he's also an idiot for several other reasons and I don't like talking to him. It's a shame about him though, he had to drop out of high school because he couldn't raise a kid.

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I've met girls and a lot of them will ask "do you ever want to have kids in the future? I do!"...I just don't want to. It's a huge responsibility and I don't want the expenses of anyone else but my wife and myself. I like being able to have free time and do what I do.

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Quote: Mesuxelf

I've thought about it, and if I do, which I'm not sure about yet, no more than 2.

Well, you're fifteen, aren't you? Don't worry about it.

Don't be a stupid **** and knock a girl up like two of my "friends" did. One was 19, knocked up a 15 year old (good going, idiot. why even date a fifteen year old?) and is now a registered sex offender and registered pedophile.

The other "friend" knocked up this women because he was really into unprotected sex. He absolutely didn't want to have kids. However, fortunately, he loves his child and says its a real blessing. Although, he ruined whatever social life he could have in his twenties. Don't get me wrong though, he loves raising his kid and I'm sure he would have it no other way. He just happens to be constantly broke and can't afford college.

I lost faith in friend 1 and don't speak to him anyone. He really started ruining whatever life he had in our senior year of high school. Its a shame too, he was an awesome close friend of mine. Friend 2 was always more of an acquaintance. However, he's also an idiot for several other reasons and I don't like talking to him. It's a shame about him though, he had to drop out of high school because he couldn't raise a kid.

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I've met girls and a lot of them will ask "do you ever want to have kids in the future? I do!"...I just don't want to. It's a huge responsibility and I don't want the expenses of anyone else but my wife and myself. I like being able to have free time and do what I do.

That's terrible D:

I've only ever thought about it during those last few moments before you fall asleep where you make up bizarre fantasies that'll never happen, then branched off of that idea to the idea of kids.

Quote: Mesuxelf

Quote: zer0dch

Quote: Mesuxelf

I've thought about it, and if I do, which I'm not sure about yet, no more than 2.

Well, you're fifteen, aren't you? Don't worry about it.

Don't be a stupid **** and knock a girl up like two of my "friends" did. One was 19, knocked up a 15 year old (good going, idiot. why even date a fifteen year old?) and is now a registered sex offender and registered pedophile.

The other "friend" knocked up this women because he was really into unprotected sex. He absolutely didn't want to have kids. However, fortunately, he loves his child and says its a real blessing. Although, he ruined whatever social life he could have in his twenties. Don't get me wrong though, he loves raising his kid and I'm sure he would have it no other way. He just happens to be constantly broke and can't afford college.

I lost faith in friend 1 and don't speak to him anyone. He really started ruining whatever life he had in our senior year of high school. Its a shame too, he was an awesome close friend of mine. Friend 2 was always more of an acquaintance. However, he's also an idiot for several other reasons and I don't like talking to him. It's a shame about him though, he had to drop out of high school because he couldn't raise a kid.

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I've met girls and a lot of them will ask "do you ever want to have kids in the future? I do!"...I just don't want to. It's a huge responsibility and I don't want the expenses of anyone else but my wife and myself. I like being able to have free time and do what I do.

That's terrible D:

I've only ever thought about it during those last few moments before you fall asleep where you make up bizarre fantasies that'll never happen, then branched off of that idea to the idea of kids.

It's more than terrible. I'm not saying that having a kid ruins their life, but it destroys whatever social life they want to have. It destroys their dreams and ambitions. It destroys their budgeting plan.

I am neither planning nor desiring to have any children of my own ever. Of course I am approaching my middle twenties so that opinion is theoretically vulnerable to change, given that people actually do change on most profound level at all. But here is my reasoning for my own decision even though it is most uninteresting of nature.

My primary argument is the responsibility thing. I just do not want to engage myself and commit to raising a child which is a single largest project a person can go through. Of course the idea of having a child of one’s own etc. sounds cute, beautiful and all that stuff. But it does not intrigue me at all. But the thing is that I feel that keeping me sane and functioning is a full-time job and while going through that maelstrom of confusion, raising a child is definitely out of question.

I also do not feel that it is so important for me to have my own genetics going through generations to reach a purposelessness and unknown goal. I just seem to lack the high emotional drive to seek for the meaning and continuity in my own personal life so in other words kids are not that important to me. Maybe in terms of temporary meaning I could teach myself another school of thinking and life philosophy but right now it seems highly improbable.

There was a message about vasectomy earlier in this topic which intrigued me to a certain level. I am absolutely sure that if qualifications for the operations would not be controlled by legislation in my country, I had done one for me already. I have soul searched my desires and want-to-potentially-reach goals in my life, and have come to a conclusion that I am okay with getting vasectomy. Although one must remember to get good follow-up appointments about the operations because there is a minor probability for the process to reverse itself.

All in all the talk about having kids is semi-interesting on a certain level. It seems that searching answer for that is a part and phase of everyone’s personal lives at some point. Of course since we are animals and programmed to continue our lineage the answer is very easy to predict on most cases. But that is all I can come up with on this instance. For more opinions, you must pay me a… errr… a small fee.

At first I was all for having kids when I get married,

Now, after I've looked into it more, and have to take care of my 2 year old niece, I take it all back, 1 kid is enough ;>.>

Quote: Sesshomaru75

I was almost a father at one point. ;_;

Anyways, I don't really think much about having children due to the fact that my siblings drive me insane, but I wouldn't mind having a kid or two in the future when I meet someone "special" enough to even consider having kids with said person.

Please explain. I'm interested. False pregnancy test results?

Nah I don't like kids, and I'd probably be a ****ty parent anyway.

Also childbirth doesn't sound like fun. :/

Quote: Dragons-go-hrr

Nah I don't like kids, and I'd probably be a ****ty parent anyway.

Also childbirth doesn't sound like fun. :/

Having kids and raising them properly is a huge responsibility. Its understandable.

I'm glad that there are a lot of people who feel the same way. It sort of makes me feel better. I was starting to feel like a bad person because I mentally told myself that I don't want kids.

I definitely don't want kids, and no matter how much coughcertainfamilymemberscough have tried to change my mind, it remains 100% unchanged.

Probably helps that I'm asexual homoromantic and the idea of having sex with anyone really freaks me out, but eh.

If for some reason I decided I want to raise a child, I'd rather adopt. But the chances of me deciding I want children in general are slim to none.

The idea of pregnancy and childbirth deeply disturb me and I've had nightmares over it so no thank you.

If at some point in the future, my partner (haha, yeah right) wanted children, I'm honestly not sure how I'd react. But I'm sure something could be worked out. Hopefully.

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But the idea of being called 'Mother' scares me.

Nope I don't want kids, I don't even want a relationship with anyone. I'm quite content as I am.

I want one, just one and I want it to be a girl so I can call it Samantha because I really like thay name.

I'm... very unsure.

I know now I don't want them. I'm not ready for the responsibility of it all. I can barely take care of myself at times and can't handle taking care of something like that.
I have 0 patience for children now and often prefer having them as far away from me as possible when they're over.

There's a lot of health issues regarding children when it comes to my family. Both my sister and mother had to have a hysterectomy after their third childbirth due to various complications.

I just honestly think that there's too many health issues connected to having children, and with me being as small as I am I don't see me having a good pregnancy.

Plus children and childbirth scare the hell out of me.

But being 23 there is a possibility that this will change but I don't look to having kids, if I do decide, until 27 and older, and also when I'm financially stable. As of now the thought terrifies me and my opinion won't change on the matter for awhile.

I know I do, I'm just unsure if I should. I'm a Type 1 Diabetic, and that can be genetic, but it skips a generation. I don't wanna make my grandchildren go through that.

Right now, I say no. But in the future, probably.

I would want kids at some point. But I need to be settled into the workforce before I'd think about that. ...I also need to actually get a date. =_="

No, probably not.

I'd want one I think. I don't like the idea of having more than one due to annoying siblings and how families with one child seem to argue a lot less.

I do not want a kid right now. Late twenties/early thirties would be the age.

i'm asexual and small children and infants give me anxiety attacks by just existing near me. the idea of being pregnant disgusts and frightens me. i honestly don't believe i have or ever will have what it takes, mentally and emotionally, to raise another human being, anyway.

so, no. no no no no no no no. no children. ever

Like how Sess put it, my siblings drive me insane. I really don't want kids in the future.

Especially if the future kids (like everyone else's) behavior is trash material (Well more so compared to what I have seen around here where I live), or there's a civil war between people over the matter of 1 opinion.

I would probably enjoy raising a child, I'm actually quite good around kids, it's just too bad that it would have to not be biologically be my own (adopted) and I don't want to make me or them go through the mental strain that would probably cause.
I personally think that co-parenting is strange and difficult, and I would not trust anyone / have no one to trust in the case of surrogacy, sooo.

Kids scare the **** out of me and what's worse you can't control them.

I see babies as evil ****ting machines.

Might change my mind but for now HELL NO!

Quote: SuperSpyroFan

Nope I don't want kids, I don't even want a relationship with anyone. I'm quite content as I am.

I actually agree with this completely.

Quote: Templarhunter97

Kids scare the **** out of me

TEENAGERS SCARE THE LIVING **** OUT OF ME

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Quote: Templarhunter97

Kids scare the **** out of me and what's worse you can't control them.

I see babies as evil ****ting machines.

Might change my mind but for now HELL NO!

My thoughts exactly, minus the possibility of changing my mind.

And just for the record: I do not hate children. I act like I do, but in reality I don't. The idea of being a parent is just kinda frightening tbh. I'd probably be a really bad parent.
I'm fine with other people's kids, like my little cousin who's like a year old, he's okay and I'm not annoyed by him. Why? 'Cause other people's kids are not and will not be my problem.

There is a 99.99 chance that I will not change my mind.

I plan to at one point, however not for a long while, I want to live my life to the most before I spend 20+ years raising a child.

Only one answer for this and that answer has been known by me my whole life:


No.


That simple. XD

To be honest I'm honestly not sure lol, but I'm leaning towards the 'no' side. I yet to even get a ****ing boyfriend, yet alone having kids. I think the main thing reason is the fact that I will have to go through pregnancy and child birth and other ****, and I really don't want to go through that (heck it even scares me). I know that I technically don't need to go through child birth with today's technology, but just the thought of pregnancy sounds awful to me. Heck I think the pregnancy sounds worse than the freaking childbirth. I get embarrassed very easily and I would hate to walk around in public with a huge lump on my stomach. I think if I wasn't a girl I probably wouldn't have cared so much, I wouldn't worry so much since I wouldn't have to go through all the physical **** that comes with it too. Plus, I'm also shorter than average and rather small structured, so I don't know how that would affect me. It would probably make pregnancy look even worse on me. It might even make childbirth even more painful for me.

And it would really interrupt me with my career and all, since what I want to do in life (being an Author and Animation as a side thing) would take up most of my time. And I'd much rather have my career than kids. I know for a fact that kids take a lot of time, and I'd hate to just shove them into day cares constantly, because I know I would have to give some of my career up and I would flat out refuse that. The only thing I like about having kids is the fact that when you're a 70 year old grandmother, you're not alone if your loved one dies or something, because you still have your kids and grand kids. To me, it's more that I will have to wait and see how my future turns out, how my career turns out, whether I can even getting a goddamn boyfriend, etc.
And another thing, I'm actually not a fan of babies at all. I think toddlers are cute but... not babies. xD

And another reason is the fact that I'd hate to bring them up into today's society, considering how bad it's getting. And it will get even worse in ten years time. I'd hate to raise a kid into this kind of society. I'd think I was doing a bad thing rather than a good thing.

Than there's the whole issue that I have a very mild case of polycystic syndrome. So getting the kid in the first place could be difficult. >__<

So yeah...(little) kids REALLY scare me. I mean, hearing them cry all day would drive me crazy. Teens can become like uncontrollable monsters because of parenting mistakes (oh yeah, I would make A Lot of those). Besides, seeing my future possible wife going through that pain of childbirth too...that would hurt me as well. And more importantly, what if they don't like video games! What if they look down on me for being so "childish"? Being looked down on by your own creation is like falling down from your status as a human for me. Most of all, will I even be responsible enough? I do have a lot of time to think about this, but it probably won't change...

lol there's also the fact that i'm actually terrible with kids. i never know what to say to them, and if one would to start screaming i'd have no idea how to deal with it.

To be honest, I wouldn't mind having a daughter/son who's old enough to take care of themselves, the older the age the better. Preferably a mature one though lol. It's mainly the whole raising them (and pregnancy/childbirth issues) that I don't like the thought off, and I know I have to go through that to get to the next stage. And by the time they're grown and leave, you're like, 40-50, and I'd hate that to.

I never really thought about it. Not sure if i want any kids or not.

Then again I'm only 16 so that really isn't a concern for me right now.

But no one under the age of 30 is baked. Concentrate on growing your career, education and providing a means to support yourself. Along the way, you'll remember the lessons your family tried to tell you. Your now strange parents will become welcome ad visors. You'll make mistakes, but you'll also strike that wonderful balance of harmony. As your life settles, you'll decide.

And then, when you least expect it. It will happen. And regardless of what you say now, things will change. Enjoy life, be responsible, and worry bout yourself.

I do want kids in the future! Not anytime soon at all, but someday.

The thing is I hope I like them more in the future. I don't really like most of them except for cousins and friends, most kids nowadays are spoiled and rude. I don't know, they just annoy me, but I'm young.

i honestly can't stand children so yeah
plus childbirth can **** you up pretty bad, the costs involved in raising a child are really bloody high and i want to travel a lot
then there's also the fact social anxiety runs in my family and i don't want to subject anyone to that
so yeeaaah

^ ah yeah that's yet another problem with me. Shyness and anxiety runs in my family. I've got it and been through hell (especially at school) because of it. My mum and uncle also suffer from it and a few other family members of mine has also suffered So there's a high chance my kid will get it.

It would take a lot of growing up on my part, but yes. Someday, I do.

I'm happy being an uncle.

That's more than enough for me.

If one day i met someone then things might change, but i highly doubt it.

Well, i mean I'm still young do obviously i think that it's too much responsibilty right now. As i grow up, i'll probably change my mind and want them. Just, as i said, i'm still young and children seem like a daunting task. Sometimes i do look at babies and wonder what it'd be like to raise one but *shrug*. TBH, kids can easily annoy me to hell and back. I can get along with them and stand them for an extent, but then they get kinda much. Also, if i did have children, i'd have to choose between
"So i want to give them a unique name, or do i want to have them able to find their names on keychains"

im going to adopt as many baby snakes as possible and you cant stop me