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I was scrolling down Tumblr today and I found some screenshots that I thought were very important for everyone to read!




I'm still searching to see what speech this is from and who the man delivering it is, but I felt as though the difference is incredibly important.

Media has been telling love stories ever since stories were first recorded or acknowledged. It's the most popular narrative topic, and we've been exposed to it all of our lives. People tell stories of a couple falling in love at first sight, or being together for only a couple days and then deciding to get married. For the most part, we know most of these plot lines are unrealistic. However, these romantic scenarios that sounds fake or rushed, still happen. We meet couples who say "I just saw him walking down the street and knew he had to be mine. We've been together for eight years," or, "My parents met weeks ago before they decided to get married." Real life stories like that makes us question if scenarios like that could really happen to us in the future.

However, it has skewed our perception on what love, romantic love, really is.

Am I saying that it's wrong to feel infatuated with someone? Absolutely not. Remember, love is a gradual process. Infatuation is the first step to get there, because you can't romantically love someone unless your heart gets the idea in the first place. That's why couples who just got together are in the "honey moon/puppy love" stage, because they're still infatuated with each other. That's not really a problem.

I believe the only time it's a problem is when it goes on for too long, and you start blurring the lines between ideals and reality. You don't acknowledge the other person's flaws, or how they treat you, or how incompatible you really are. Vice versa, too. Prolonged infatuation, or the desire to stay in the ideal of a happy relationship, are the seeds to a toxic and unhealthy relationship.

There's an arc in Aggrestuko that portrays someone clinging onto infatuation to keep the relationship going. While I recommend you watch the anime (it's only 12, 10 minute episodes on Netflix!). I don't wanna spend too much time talking about this arc, so here's a video that explains it. Spoiler warning if you still want to watch the show!



Even if you've had a crush for a long time, in the end, it's still a crush. It's still an ideal, and it just may have lasted for that long because you're putting this person of a pedestal to the point where you're possessive of it and don't want to admit of letting go.

It's rough process, I've recently gone through it and accepted it. I guess that's why these two little screencaps inspired me to make this topic, because lots of people have trouble with this as well.

opinion question- do you think a relationship between two people can be completely void of love, strictly built on a long-running infatuation?
i personally believe yes, it is all too possible.

can infatuation become obsession? i've seen obsession. its not pretty.

this is kind of what im talking about as well

Quote: parisruelz12

can infatuation become obsession? i've seen obsession. its not pretty.

I believe so, maybe if it goes on long enough

IDK, I don't study love

Quote: xXBeavcoonXx

opinion question- do you think a relationship between two people can be completely void of love, strictly built on a long-running infatuation?
i personally believe yes, it is all too possible.

It's hard to say. If the couple have never truly fallen in love with each other but have been together for years because of infatuation, then it's an unfulfilling relationship and they are clinging onto their ideals of each other...at least imo.

There are couples that remain lovey dovey with each other for years, but that's just simply how they show their love, and it's not actually infatuation. It just looks like it. Love is complicated like that.

Quote: parisruelz12

can infatuation become obsession? i've seen obsession. its not pretty.

In my opinion, prolonged infatuation is a mild form of obsession.

When Love is more complicated than your math tests

I struggle with this so badly. It’s tainted a lot of friendships I’ve tried keeping with female friends and is a constant battle I have to make with myself to not let overcome me.

I know it’s normal for a guy my age to want a relationship, but damn... I need to chill sometimes. Things will come with time. I’m sure there’s tons of potential candidates of EXACTLY my type at college. Right now I just need to focus on myself

In my opinion I think a lot of it has to do with the need for instant gratification.
I don't mean to get all "KIdS THesE DaYS" because I'm like Gen-Z and the exact generation I'm talking about so I'm very much a part of this too, but it's very easy in our society now to get exactly what you want when you want it. This isn't necessarily a bad thing but I have a point so stick with me. Tv is very easily accessible, knowledge is very easily accessible, if I want something (that I can afford) I can have it to my house in 2 days or less from Amazon. Many tasks are automated, and more and more things are being built on a fast-paced society. So when it comes to love, something that takes time, people are impatient and they want intense soulmate romance right away. Nobody has the time to build something that is true love with someone because we don't have to take that time to do anything else. Life used to be a lot slower than it is now, and I think that's why relationships have changed so much over time.

i can understand this. i used to think i was in love with dragon allen but then i realized it was just lust. :(