darkSpyro

(Inb4 goes viral like the ask me threads)

topic in a few hours

Honestly...

I think you have a lot of sensitivity and self awareness issues that you need to work out, especially if you’re going to hang out on the Internet. I know this is pretty rich coming from a guy who posts nonstop about how sad and lonely he is in Personal Thoughts, but I have at least attempted to put up a shield against certain things and have a laugh about myself every once in a while.

Your topics seem rather attention-whorish sometimes, which again I am a bit guilty of, but I think you can come off like you just crave attention sometimes.

That being said, I don’t hate you and I know you can grow out of some of these practices

You're very self destructive which i don't get.

You've always been pleasant to me, and yet you give people openings to be hateful to you :/

Why do it to yourself Crystale?

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You're very self destructive which i don't get.

You've always been pleasant to me, and yet you give people openings to be hateful to you :/

Why do it to yourself Crystale?

Since you asked

That’s not at all what he asked, though????

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That’s not at all what he asked, though????

Misread
.... rip

Gonna repost what I said about you in my Compliments thread, maybe add a little more.


TBH, I really like you and always saw you as one of the more innocent users and admire how open you are about your transgenderism. That's very brave of you and I'm proud of you about that. I do feel like you need to be less sensitive to certain things, though. Doing that'll do you much good. Work on your bad habits and you'll find happiness. Either way, I hope you find the absolute best life you can get, because you deserve it.

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Quote: Greeble

You're very self destructive which i don't get.

You've always been pleasant to me, and yet you give people openings to be hateful to you :/

Why do it to yourself Crystale?

Since you asked

Reveal Spoiler

Cuz I dont look good

The avatar makes sense now.

Whoever the **** says that you don't need cheese in your scrambled eggs is a dumb ****ing uneducated inbred street ****ting swine. I don't care if Gordiono Ramram doesn't say anything about cheese in your scrambled eggs, you need it, otherwise, you can't obtain perfect eggy orgasms when you shove that piping hot pile of wet yellow golden fluffy goodness into your mouth. You know- **** butter. **** that ****. You don't even need the unholy artery clogging ass loads of butter like so many fake *****es say you do. Just a little is fine, just enough to coat the ****ing pan. Those pseudo chefs who say you need a lot- liars. All liars. They don't know ****. They're about as educated as a rat. Actually they're probably ****ing dumber than a rat. You shouldn't trust them with anything. I'm surprised some people even choose to live near people knowing that they don't put cheese in their eggs. That's like living near a suspected serial killer. Do you not value your own life? Just **** butter. What you should be thinking about is the cheese. Saying you're gonna make scrambled eggs without cheese is like saying you're gonna taking a **** without toilet paper- you don't ****ing walk around with **** smeared between your uncleaned ass cheeks and you don't god damn dare let those eggies into your esophagus without melting god the father son and holy spirit infallible slices of ****ing cheese into them in the pan. But you know, so many people omit cheese anyways. It's a ****ing sin. Nobody gives a **** about the sanctity of life anymore. No wonder we have Kimberly Jing Jang wanting to nuke the United States and refugees assaulting the residents of European countries and $19 trillion in debt and countries whose currency is worth less than MMO currencies and all this other ****- how can you expect human decency from anyone anywhere in the world when there are people in the world who still don't put cheese in their scrambled eggs? The answer is you can't. We are ****ED. And it's because of STUPID ****S who don't put cheese in their scrambled eggs. Is it SO ****ING DIFFICULT to respect the sanctity of life and make an effort to preserve human decency? I guess so, because I just saw you take that carton of eggs from your refrigerator without taking that package of sliced cheese too. You're just going to leave it in there, preventing it from fulfilling its destiny. Don't you know how badly it longs to be taken from the package, torn to little shreds, and scattered about in the Yellow Sea of egg whites and yolks in that pan or pot, and then melted and mixed and becoming as one with the eggs? There is no higher purpose for a slice of cheese than that. No fancy fondue or French cluster**** can do it better service. Yet, you still refuse. GOD DAMN IT. **** YOU. I can't believe this. It's 2017 and there are still people like this. **** THEM. They deserve to burn in hellfire and brimstone. They're damning the whole human race just because they're too uncultured to put that godsend coagulated milk protein into their eggs. People are ****ING DUMB and they ruin everything. Kimberly Jing Jang just ****ing nuke everyone already. We don't deserve to exist when part of our species is so primitive and intellectually disabled. We should all just die. We don't deserve to breathe another breath of air. Just please, right now, cook up some scrambled eggs and put some cheese in them. You will become enlightened almost beyond your own feeble human comprehension. You will see the truth- your wrongs, your mistakes, your reflections and retrospects on life- you will gain lifetimes and lifetimes worth of insight, experience, and wisdom, things that not even the most ambitious scientists or philosophers could attain. You can transcend your ****ty, sinful existence just by putting cheese in your eggs. There is no need to cure disease or end wars or invent new technologies- all of those will come, in shining, beautiful waves of discovery- just by putting cheese in your eggs. Do it *****. Your stubbornness is holding back the entirety of humanity.

I’d say something, but I don’t want to...

I don't think you like to listen to what people tell you to do. This is because you posted a spoiler, without the spoiler tag. Twice. and then continued to argue why you thought you were in the right. On top of this, you constantly make topics about how terrible your life is and how bad you look. The thing is, everyone here feels the same way. However, they don't make topic after topic about it. I know for a fact that people post things like "This should be in Personal Thoughts." And ye, they're right. Most of those topics usually end in drama. You're self centered in the sense that you always feel like you're in the right, when most of the time you aren't.

Listening to criticism from others is something that you need to work on.

this topic is gonna blow up

You want honest? I honestly fairly agree with some of what's been posted above.

You tend to be fairly vain putting a lot of focus on your looks and like being attractive will make you successful in the world somehow. Which, honestly.... you're a trans-woman who hasn't gone through conversion yet. You're not going to like how you look right now and even after all of the surgeries and stuff, it still may not come out as you hoped. What matters though is that you're happy with who you are, especially after, not just how you look. You've also made a few posts as I recall desiring an attractive girlfriend with little concern toward her personality. I get the sentiment, but overall it makes you come off fairly shallow like looks are the only thing that matters to you.

Going off of that, you also tend to objectify women somewhat often like a couple topics you made where the idea was to just post pictures of random hot girls from the internet. It's honestly a bit concerning how much you've done it, almost like a horny teenage boy and it raises some concerns for your future partner and how healthy any relationship you have is. This is honestly kind of odd considering the trans thing. Would think you'd be a bit more sympathetic towards women's needs & feelings if you are one.

On the matter of being trans. From the moment you came out, it seemed like you were doing it to try to get a girlfriend. Like you were upset at the fact you couldn't get one and becoming a girl yourself would somehow increase your odds of finding love. Unfortunately, the opposite is more likely. After we tried to point it out to you that this was the wrong reason, you went back and tried to claim it was who you are and more genuine. However, there have still been a few points after that you seem to treat being trans as a fetish and like you want to be a woman to fulfill some lesbian sexual fantasy. I still question your motives in regards to being trans, but I've chosen to let it be. There's been enough drama surrounding it and everyone has said thoughts in the past on the matter, so it's only going to make it worse if we do bring it up every time it comes up. I sincerely hope with all my heart that you don't do something you will come to regret and rush into this without fully thinking it through; and that if you do fully commit and go through with conversion that you do truly end up happy.

You also tend to treat relationships like they massively matter to grant happiness in some way. If you aren't in one, then everything is hopeless and you need to find true love right now. You're still young, the odds of finding love and the one you're going to be with forever are fairly slim. Though I'm sure you'll find someone eventually, you just need to be patient rather than coming off as desperate as you often seem and try to find real happiness rather than rushing into something quick solely for companionship.

As for general events on this site, you've gotten into fights fairly often and a lot of drama can happen from your posts. I mean, did you really think this topic was going to over well? You had to know that the site has a lot of bias toward you and that the trans topic is still a bit of a sore spot. It was only asking for trolls to come and **** on you. You've also made more than a few topics that could probably do better as a post in Personal Thoughts with a note leaving it open for replies. Making it more public like you have invites trolls to make fun of you. Most of these are just almost blog based posts that go with the typical "woe is me" on your life. Not trying to make light of any problems in your life, I'm sure they are serious and affect you deeply, but overall, there's not a lot that we can do to help you, so the topic just devolves into trolls and hijinks while you come off as attention-whoring for a solution we just don't have. Many posts you make just don't entirely seem well thought out.

I will admit, the site has gotten a bit of a bias against you after all that has happened. It amazes me a bit that you can still come on here and face all of the people who do have it out for you and still post when you have to know someone is going to make a nasty reply. I do wish you the best and do hope that everyone can eventually come to get past this bias.

get help

Although you've made mistakes in the past, I think the other users overreact a lot. I feel that a few of the more "popular" users have made those exact same mistakes, but never get called out for it.

As I've said before in Random Thoughts (if anyone even reads the crap I post there), I've noticed that there have been several users who become targets of hate, and/or the butt of jokes - I can think of a few that have had this happen, including myself, but I can't remember enough to comment on what happened.

It seems to me that this will always be an ongoing thing with darkSpyro, to single out a user and hate them, usually over small things. I don't know why. Like there's some sort of unwritten class system, and if you're not popular enough, then you're next in line as the dS buttmonkey. But if you are popular, then you could do pretty much anything you wanted and never get hated for it.

So, in short... Admittedly, I cannot form a complete opinion on you since I don't remember you well. I know you have flaws, and hopefully you will learn to overcome them. Compared to other users, I think your flaws are very insignificant. But unlike some other users I've seen, I think you're more likely to overcome them. You seem more down-to-Earth and realistic, someone who can figure things out and make things better.

I realised many of my flaws through the hate I received, or the consequences of my actions. They say you learn from your mistakes, but I perceive that as half-true, as most of the lessons may come from others pointing out the mistake. If they never do, then you yourself may not be able to realize where you went wrong either.

I think you have the greatest chance to learn. Light criticisms and harsh criticisms are both criticisms, and therefore both give a chance to learn. No criticisms, or vague criticisms, are the only truly bad kind, as they give no chance to learn. I'm not saying harsh criticisms are the answer, and light criticisms are much better morally, but as long as it's not empty or vague then it may end up being better than none.

...I don't like making serious posts, so I'm not sure how positive or useful this post is. Furthermore, it's just gone midnight and I'm getting tired, even more reason not to try being serious. Nonetheless, I hope you can retrieve whatever useful advice you can from this, even if I've repeated myself or been a hypocrite (like I do in most of my opinion posts). Perspective is important, and can completely change the meaning of things - so as I said before, just perceive it in the most positive way you can, if that helps you.

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You want honest? I honestly fairly agree with some of what's been posted above.

You tend to be fairly vain putting a lot of focus on your looks and like being attractive will make you successful in the world somehow. Which, honestly.... you're a trans-woman who hasn't gone through conversion yet. You're not going to like how you look right now and even after all of the surgeries and stuff, it still may not come out as you hoped. What matters though is that you're happy with who you are, especially after, not just how you look. You've also made a few posts as I recall desiring an attractive girlfriend with little concern toward her personality. I get the sentiment, but overall it makes you come off fairly shallow like looks are the only thing that matters to you.

Going off of that, you also tend to objectify women somewhat often like a couple topics you made where the idea was to just post pictures of random hot girls from the internet. It's honestly a bit concerning how much you've done it, almost like a horny teenage boy and it raises some concerns for your future partner and how healthy any relationship you have is. This is honestly kind of odd considering the trans thing. Would think you'd be a bit more sympathetic towards women's needs & feelings if you are one.

On the matter of being trans. From the moment you came out, it seemed like you were doing it to try to get a girlfriend. Like you were upset at the fact you couldn't get one and becoming a girl yourself would somehow increase your odds of finding love. Unfortunately, the opposite is more likely. After we tried to point it out to you that this was the wrong reason, you went back and tried to claim it was who you are and more genuine. However, there have still been a few points after that you seem to treat being trans as a fetish and like you want to be a woman to fulfill some lesbian sexual fantasy. I still question your motives in regards to being trans, but I've chosen to let it be. There's been enough drama surrounding it and everyone has said thoughts in the past on the matter, so it's only going to make it worse if we do bring it up every time it comes up. I sincerely hope with all my heart that you don't do something you will come to regret and rush into this without fully thinking it through; and that if you do fully commit and go through with conversion that you do truly end up happy.

You also tend to treat relationships like they massively matter to grant happiness in some way. If you aren't in one, then everything is hopeless and you need to find true love right now. You're still young, the odds of finding love and the one you're going to be with forever are fairly slim. Though I'm sure you'll find someone eventually, you just need to be patient rather than coming off as desperate as you often seem and try to find real happiness rather than rushing into something quick solely for companionship.

As for general events on this site, you've gotten into fights fairly often and a lot of drama can happen from your posts. I mean, did you really think this topic was going to over well? You had to know that the site has a lot of bias toward you and that the trans topic is still a bit of a sore spot. It was only asking for trolls to come and **** on you. You've also made more than a few topics that could probably do better as a post in Personal Thoughts with a note leaving it open for replies. Making it more public like you have invites trolls to make fun of you. Most of these are just almost blog based posts that go with the typical "woe is me" on your life. Not trying to make light of any problems in your life, I'm sure they are serious and affect you deeply, but overall, there's not a lot that we can do to help you, so the topic just devolves into trolls and hijinks while you come off as attention-whoring for a solution we just don't have. Many posts you make just don't entirely seem well thought out.

I will admit, the site has gotten a bit of a bias against you after all that has happened. It amazes me a bit that you can still come on here and face all of the people who do have it out for you and still post when you have to know someone is going to make a nasty reply. I do wish you the best and do hope that everyone can eventually come to get past this bias.

(just wanted to address a few things you brought up. In order of the bolded lines)
1. As much as I want to say looks don't matter, a specific dream job I want to get in the future (Not dirty, before anyone says anything it's not a sexual job. ) does require a certain image in terms of physical features.
2. Even the girls that I have dated after coming out I wouldn't say are super gorgeous. (Like of course I thought they were pretty back then, but now that I am over them they just don't look as pretty as they once did if that makes any sense) Mainly personality traits were what drove me to them, but that's the same for everyone.
3. Cute girls are cute, I don't think I am objectifying anything by celebrating how cute/hot girls are. I fairly recall waifu threads back in the past along with husbando ones.
4. Yeah lets just let that be, while my "motives" seemed questionable after looking back I did notice pieces of my childhood that were feminine (which of course I hid) including Dora, Kim Possible, etc and that is kind of what clicked. Maybe I was just looking for an excuse to come out? Idk
5. I am honestly scared of being forever alone, I want to see the world with someone by my side every step of the way.
6/7. Yeah I know about the bias, but regardless of the outcome I decided to take this chance. Face it despite what could come out of this thread

I don't believe you're actually transgender, I believe you're just crying out for attention

alright..

while i generally just lurk dS as of late and even back when, i don't recall too many instances that you have caused too much drama. however, i could just be lucky and drama always happens when i'm away, i don't know.
that said, i don't find myself disagreeing with points that other people have made. you are most certainly obsessive with self deprication and in terms of making topics that are better fit as PTs, as others have said.

however, your attention seeking through your considering yourself transgender does not mean you aren't. granted, i missed whatever original topics you made regarding the topic, as i miss a lot on this site over the years. but whatever the case, it's your life, your choices, your reasons. someone else questions your choices or reasons? they're not you, you don't have to listen to them.

numerous things you've done have been brought to my attention through the years, and i also find myself also questioning your motives behind your topics and trans-ness. however, like i said, no one else is you and knows how you feel about any of it.

i've been writing this post mainly for myself, to be honest with you. my own trans-ness may be with a different background than yours, who knows, but it still always saddens me to see a lack of support toward others, regardless of former circumstance..

(just to make a note here.. in regard to part of your response to seiki - i recently also noticed more feminine parts in my childhood. however, memories can often play tricks on people. you can remember selective moments only, or even have your past perception change based on your current perception.. i'd say that portion raises my most questions regarding myself - am i actually, or am i just making up memories to fit how i feel?) also, everyone has interests that are stereotypical to not the gender they're assigned at birth

i've tried to avoid saying too much negative or positive. truth be told, i don't have much of an opinion either way toward you. do i find myself questioning your trans-ness? yes. to be entirely honest with you, everyone should question anyone's.

to be even more honest, i hate the concept. before i realized i was, i would have found it abhorrent, to be entirely truthful. would i have shunned someone because of it? i have no way of knowing. i lived an extremely oblivious childhood to all aspects of any spectrum other than light/color <.<

i apologize that this became more about the concept of trans-ness rather than directly you

liking feminine things doesn't make you tra-waaait a second


ive had this arguement before.

i was moreso making a joke about an arguement I had on her about the same subject, but that’s good to know, sami