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Quote: CommanderGame

Well yeah, I agree with you completely. I've already heard the whole "love yourself **** the haters" a million times, but I don't wanna give up being comfortable. I like not having to deal with my sexuality but it CONSTANTLY comes up with my friends asking me if I'm gay. Situations like that are incredibly uncomfortable, the only thing I can answer is "nah I'm straight haha"

Sorry though, for a while I thought I was bi, and I felt embarrassed about things when in public or with parents or friends, and even though most my friends assume I'm gay, I understand how you feel, you'll have to tell your parents one day, and good luck man. I wouldn't be mad at your parents either, everyone has different viewpoints. I wouldn't think your parents wouldn't love you anymore or anything drastic, they'll still love you, though they probably won't accept you being who you are easily. Good luck for whenever

Thanks for the encouraging words! I wouldn't be mad at my parents, they were born in an older in a culture that hasn't adapted to modern values, so I understand why they would feel the way they do.
Also I always tell myself "TOMMOROW I TELL SOMEONE" but I never end up doing it...
There's also the fact that if I come out, my friend owes my other friend 5$, they had a bet about if I was gay or not >.>

Sounds like somebody's earning $5 soon!

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that's all my secrets i think.

I'm not going to post any secret here, sorry.

Quote: hardcoreignitor

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i find people who cut themselves to be pitifully ironic

"I HAVE SO MUCH PAIIIIIIIIIN"

so why the hell are you cutting yourself therein causing more pain"

also this generation is spoiled as **** nobody has a right to go choppy choppy on their arms


also also i have a lisp

yes, like daffy duck

doodley doop

it makes the emotional pain feel less bad brah

I've always thought that cutting yourself meant you're trying to commit suicide, but sort of failing?

And I agree with Samius.

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To be honest I don't really understand that either. I mean, I get that the physical pain might overcome whatever you're thinking at the time, but to do that on purpose just seems really stupid.

People always have what they consider to be valid reasons to do whatever it is that they do, so I try not to judge and instead look at things objectively. It's just very difficult when it comes to something like this.

I didn't really think of it this way until it was mentioned in this thread but a slight theory (mind you I never really self harmed so I could be way off in which case please correct me):

I think the idea is that the physical pain is immediate and forces your mind to think of that pain above all else, including any emotional trauma or feelings you might be having. Instead of thinking about something negative your head is focused on the pain you're currently feeling. And I don't know, maybe it becomes associated to them as a good way to cope with negative feelings and a habit starts up, possibly leading to that pain feeling good?

That said, I think there's several other less harmful, more productive ways to deal with emotional issues.

Quote: ZapNorris

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i'd totally **** brooke from dance moms

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Ok here goes

People self harm when they're under extreme emotional pain and feel totally helpless and don't know where to turn. All your frustration and anger and negative feelings are turned in on yourself because you just can't express what you're feeling and it all gets concentrated into this self hatred and frustration. A lot of people don't know how to deal with their depression and mental illnesses and turn to this and find that it's better than doing nothing and it becomes a habit. It's a horrible, horrible way of coping and of course there are much healthier ways, but it's something a lot of people do when they're not sure of healthier ways and in a really tough spot. If you notice someone self harming, they REALLY need help and not judgement. So even if you don't understand, try to keep quiet about judging them. If anything, they're looking for help!

I'm the sort of person who, if they see you cutting yourself, takes that knife/other sharp object out of your hand (whenever it is safe to do so) and gives you a slap on the wrist and says "did you feel that pain from me slapping you? Did it feel good? No, you say? Well good, maybe now you'll understand that a knife cutting through skin hurts way more than that and it was a silly idea to attempt that".

It's just one of those things where a simple "noooooooo don't do it, stop it ur a precious cinnamon roll" isn't gonna cut it (no pun intended). You need to be a little harsh with things like this, because when people are in that state, they aren't thinking about the logic behind their actions, so you need to make sure they realise what they are doing is stupid and doesn't help them.

At this point, I would say people only still cut themselves as a "coping mechanism" because it is a concept that has been passed down and popularised by now. It's like drugs and smoking, you hear about it and you hear how it's dangerous, but then you hear people who try it say it's good, much like how people who cut say it "actually helps to some degree". It's also something that's heavily glamourised and exploited in social media and even TV media (like this idea people perpetuate that if you have scars from cuts, it's symbolic of how you are OBVIOUSLY some deep individual who has been through a lot, experienced a lot, and that makes you better than and above people who don't cut).

If it wasn't so popularised in today's society, people wouldn't even think to cut. They'd think of other (hopefully better) ways of coping with problems. But because cutting is so popularised, it's almost like a "default" or "standard" method of coping to a lot of people.

I have tried on many occasions to talk someone out of attempting suicide.

I failed once.


Fortunately, the attempt wasn't successful, but I failed.


Everyone loves to be the hero until they fail.

Quote: Metallo

I have tried on many occasions to talk someone out of attempting suicide.

I failed once.


Fortunately, the attempt wasn't successful, but I failed.


Everyone loves to be the hero until they fail.

I don't think it's the fact that everyone loves to be the hero, but the fact that when you're the one who they decide to go to, you don't really have much of a choice. It's not like you're gonna say no, I won't help you.

Quote: Mesuxelf

Quote: Metallo

I have tried on many occasions to talk someone out of attempting suicide.

I failed once.


Fortunately, the attempt wasn't successful, but I failed.


Everyone loves to be the hero until they fail.

I don't think it's the fact that everyone loves to be the hero, but the fact that when you're the one who they decide to go to, you don't really have much of a choice. It's not like you're gonna say no, I won't help you.

That's what I meant.

Quote: Mesuxelf

Quote: CommanderGame

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Gay as ****
technically is seeing how it's biggest secret outside interweb so

help me out of this closet how do I go about telling people

Act as gay as possible around them, and hope they get the message.

I do that.... A LOT

Secretly...I'm a little bit naive