darkSpyro - Spyro and Skylanders Forum > Stuff and Nonsense > How do I escape the friend-zone?
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#1 Posted: 03:21:59 31/12/2014 | Topic Creator
Every single person I have met has branded me their friend, and I am getting sick of it. I have only been in about 3 short-lived relationships my entire life and they ended because I was told I'd make a better friend than boyfriend. What do I do?
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#2 Posted: 03:23:14 31/12/2014
Don't do anything, just be yourself. The right person will come along and see your potential.
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#3 Posted: 03:26:10 31/12/2014 | Topic Creator
Like I haven't heard that line a million times before hahaha.
No, I appreciate the input.
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#4 Posted: 03:26:55 31/12/2014
What...
You're asking a website full of antisocial teens and you don't even have someone that you like right now anyway? Why does everyone care so much about this stuff anyway I dont get it |
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#5 Posted: 03:28:30 31/12/2014
Stop subscribing to Overly Attached Girlfriend's channel and it should work.
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#6 Posted: 03:55:41 31/12/2014
join okcupid and send dick pics to every single girl you see 100% guaranteed to work
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#7 Posted: 03:59:40 31/12/2014
just bop her ontop of teh head
works errytiem ;)
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#8 Posted: 05:02:33 31/12/2014
Don't ask socially awkward nerds.
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#9 Posted: 05:14:04 31/12/2014
If you really want to be in a relationship, patience is needed. If they say that you are a better friend than boyfriend, then they just aren't into you in that way. Someone will come at one point of you're life that will have that sort of bond, but as said, patience is key. Don't force anyone into a relationship, if they aren't into you, changing yourself won't help.
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#10 Posted: 05:18:23 31/12/2014
You don't.
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#11 Posted: 05:18:32 31/12/2014
You run.
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#12 Posted: 05:21:31 31/12/2014
Dude, I've done this before the thing is you can't escape the friend zone you need to find someone else, saying "I want to be friends." is just a nicer way of telling someone you don't want to go out with them, but eventually you will find your one special someone!
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#13 Posted: 06:19:57 31/12/2014
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be just friends, but I know it hurts.
I fully agree with Avatari. Just be yourself and the right person will appreciate you. Trust me, it works. |
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#14 Posted: 07:15:35 31/12/2014
Be yourself, you will eventually find a girl that loves you. (This coming from a guy with a solid relationship and also has to non literally fend girls off with a stick)
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#15 Posted: 07:16:44 31/12/2014
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#16 Posted: 07:18:00 31/12/2014
Quote: whirlwind fan
typos, changing a sentence in mysterious ways
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#17 Posted: 07:30:18 31/12/2014
Quote: Windumup
plot twist - windumup is really a pimp |
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#18 Posted: 07:44:57 31/12/2014
Quote: arceustheprime
actual picture of windumup |
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#19 Posted: 07:46:40 31/12/2014
^ He looks so cheesy but at the same time like he has an endless supply of cash
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#20 Posted: 08:02:36 31/12/2014
Well they are short lived, perhaps you start out as a friend then hit the (the boyfriend Girlfriend) zone.
I mean I am in a relationship, and that's how me and my boyfriend got into the (boyfriend Girlfriend) zone, except it took years of friendship.
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#21 Posted: 11:26:07 31/12/2014
The only way:
Seriously speaking, there is no such thing as a "friend zone", okay? Take it from someone who hasn't been a virgin in years. The "friend zone" is just a name that people came up with for being rejected because they weren't interesting/attractive/likable enough. It's an abstract concept that encourages a flawed way of thinking, because blaming others/feeling self-pity doesn't help jack ****. Think of a relationship as an exchange, a trade, because that's basically what it is. It's like a deal of trust and certain obligations, and if you blow it the deal breaks. Let's say that you really like a girl for reasons which are (obviously) known to you. That's what you're getting out of the deal. What is she getting out of it? You wouldn't take a rotten deal if you were offered one, why would she? Women judge you according to their own values, so if you're the one that wants a relationship, you're the one who is going to have to make sacrifices. You're going to have to ask yourself: "What kind of a person would they want to have a relationship with? What can I offer to the girl I like?" If your answer is "nothing in particular" or "a really nice bf", then get bent. Anybody can be nice. You have to have something that interests her enough for her to want to be more than friends. To quote the old meme, women are not machines that you put kindness coins into until sex falls out. It's not like a video game where you just talk to them and get points. They've got brains and they're using them. The best kind of a situation would obviously be the one in which initially both you and the girl want a relationship. That's when you don't have to change to suit the girls needs, or vice versa. In this kind of a situation both participants automatically feel the need to keep the relationship going. However, as this is (sadly) rarely the case, either the girl or the guy has to change for the other, or there will never be a relationship. Now, obviously you should not change for the other person in ways that make you feel uncomfortable. Otherwise it will feel like a bad relationship, and you'll regret it. Anyway, if you ever want to even the odds of that best kind of a situation taking place, you can always plan ahead. Be more attractive to people. Pick a style that you like and looks good on you. Take care of your body and your looks, that's not being vain, it's being conscious of your own status. Work on your outlook on life. Be positive and calm. Nothing has "maturity" written all over it like calmness, and positive people are always the most popular people. Form a big circle of friends. You make people know you by knowing a lot of people, and you meet new people mostly through your friends/people you already know. The more friends you have, the more important you are in any social circle, and that's a plus. Also, just to be clear. When I talk about "changing" I don't necessarily mean having to change who you are. I'm just talking about changing the factors involved, like social status, looks or income. I hope this little rant helps you in some way. |
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#22 Posted: 12:11:04 31/12/2014
You don't.
You wont be in a relationship with the girl unless she has feelings for you. |
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#23 Posted: 12:50:53 31/12/2014
samius for user of the year
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#24 Posted: 14:00:50 31/12/2014
A+ Samius answer.
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#25 Posted: 15:03:51 31/12/2014
One thing I'd like to add to Samius's answer:
Get a vision. Find your passion in life and constantly work towards it. It could be a career goal, a certain cause you want to work for, anything like that. A real woman appreciates a man who is fulfilling himself and doing something with his life. Of course, this has its own purpose - by no means am I saying to do this just to get a girl. But any person that's worth being with will likely find you more attractive. |
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#26 Posted: 15:14:18 31/12/2014
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#27 Posted: 15:31:33 31/12/2014
Quote: somePerson
Yeah? A smooth sea never made a skillful sailor. Quote: Metallo
Yeah, this is also a good point. Many people say that you have to love yourself in order to love others/be loved. A sort of internal integrity and direction. While I don't think that's completely true, a man is only as good as what he does. Reliability and motivation are very positive traits, and that's something you can learn through hobbies, jobs, etc. |
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#28 Posted: 17:54:16 31/12/2014
As I said before, you will see her someday. I found the one for me last summer and we are still in a steady relationship.
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#29 Posted: 18:38:51 31/12/2014 | Topic Creator
LOL i honestly just posted this to see what internet-addicted socially awkward people would say. Me and my friend were having this conversation the other day and I wanted to put his theory to the test
and samius. Yes. Just yes. You have the rights. For everything
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#30 Posted: 19:11:20 31/12/2014
Quote: LegendOfZelda
Dude, don't generalize. Not all of us are socially awkward. This may be hard to believe, but some of us are actually doing things with our lives. |
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#31 Posted: 19:27:55 31/12/2014 | Topic Creator
Im not particularly generalizing. Not everyone online is weird, but you can usually tell who is with certain topics.
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#32 Posted: 19:35:48 31/12/2014
Quote: LegendOfZelda
"Weird" is far too ambiguous to label a certain group with..... Unless by "weird" you mean antisocial. Then yeah, it's kind of apparent, mostly because they'll state it themselves. |
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#33 Posted: 19:46:59 31/12/2014 | Topic Creator
Quote: Metallo
Well everyone is weird in their own way. Noone is particularly normal. But then theres "oh god people" weird
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#34 Posted: 19:47:53 31/12/2014
Quote: LegendOfZelda
Hey, someone could look at you and go "oh god." You never know. |
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#35 Posted: 19:50:33 31/12/2014 | Topic Creator
Yeah, a good point
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#36 Posted: 03:09:05 01/01/2015
What type of girl are you trying to get?
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#37 Posted: 03:16:24 01/01/2015
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That's what they say. |
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#38 Posted: 04:05:54 01/01/2015
you cant really generalize one thing that everyone wants in a significant other
find out more about them, find out what they need and want in a relationship and see if you can match that, and see if they match what you need and want in a relationship too.
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#39 Posted: 22:27:38 03/01/2015
you have to run all the way to the giant ring at the end of the level, then u move onto green hill zone.
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#40 Posted: 22:38:59 03/01/2015
It's not easy, but ya have to be persistent. You might have to defeat a demon lord, and warp through several worlds. But once you do, you walk up the wizard stairs, and produce your magic key you got in a water world and unlock the chamber door. Then, walk right up to the princess, and give her a smooch.
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#41 Posted: 22:54:57 03/01/2015
Quote: Seiki
Mathmatical!!!!! (Yes I got the reference)
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#42 Posted: 00:29:24 04/01/2015
The friendzone doesn't exist lol
edit: samius you're perfect and your post is perfect thank you |
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#43 Posted: 00:32:03 04/01/2015
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I just saw 5 minutes ago that this topic was back on top, and I knew you would find it eventually. |
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#44 Posted: 00:34:07 04/01/2015
Quote: Samius
you said everything I wanted to say and saved me the trouble thank u!!! honestly not many people understand this concept and i'm glad i could educate people on it |
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#45 Posted: 00:43:30 04/01/2015
Quote: Coocie2
I'm glad I could help. |
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#46 Posted: 00:45:56 04/01/2015
But can you really make yourself attractive to a person, beyond a certain extent? At the end of the day, if they're not into you, they're just not into you.
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#47 Posted: 00:49:03 04/01/2015
Quote: Metallo
sometimes life just sucks and you gotta suck it up |
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#48 Posted: 00:50:58 04/01/2015
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