darkSpyro

not necessarily rules...but guidelines that are silly but a must.

For me, I need to be taller. And I must be older. I assume that's pretty basic, but any women who is taller or older than me is a no go.

What they must have/do
Be within 3 years in difference with me (older or younger)
Have a good sense of humor (if your not going to laugh every once in awhile, I can't see things working out)
Have a clean record (not having to spend anytime in jail at all)
Must be pleasant to talk to
If we go to movies you must pay for your ticket if I payed for yours last time (As in one date I pay for yours and mine, then you pay the next time)
Pitch in to help pay for dinner if we go to a restaurant (50 50 or so)


They must not do any of the following
1. Smoke
2. Do drugs
3. Cheat (On tests and/or me)
4. Pierce their body
Do any of the above and I will dump you before you can blink.


Also not to be racist but I prefer white girls sorry African-American girls, I am just not into you

I don't set any specific rules, I think it's pretty vain. If I like her, I like her.


But they typically do have some things in common, so I guess it's just my subconscious preferences.

Taller, older guys. Also either brown or blond short hair. Clean shaven, tho a little bit of scruff is alright. Also they have to have some muscles. Not like, ridiculously bulging, that's gross. But some well-defined muscles is nice. Also... no smoking, drugs or anything like that. Also, they have to be faithful to me.
Lawl I just described my bf.

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I don't set any specific rules; I think it's pretty vain. If I like her, I like her.


But they typically do have some things in common, so I guess it's just my subconscious preferences.

Yeah my "rules" are more like things you should do anyways

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Also not to be racist but I prefer white girls sorry African-American girls, I am just not into you

I've never been emotionally involved with a black girl. (keyword: emotionally)


But I'd be lying BIG TIME if I said I wasn't attracted to them.....

Yeah. I mean, you can't really define something like that.

Yep its kinda hard to define "rules" really when some of them just seem normal in nature. Also one thing I forgot to mention is that if you want to marry me, then you must be AT least 18 and I am at least 18 by then. And that we been together for a few years

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If we go to movies you must pay for your ticket if I payed for yours last time (As in one date I pay for yours and mine, then you pay the next time)
Pitch in to help pay for dinner if we go to a restaurant (50 50 or so)

This is really lame of you to say. If you're taking the girl out, you're paying.

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If we go to movies you must pay for your ticket if I payed for yours last time (As in one date I pay for yours and mine, then you pay the next time)
Pitch in to help pay for dinner if we go to a restaurant (50 50 or so)

This is really lame of you to say. If you're taking the girl out, you're paying.

That's a really great way for someone to take advantage of their partner. Honestly, while I wouldn't define his idea in those exact terms, I think it's nice that he has a standard similar to that so that both people can show an equal amount of effort. He comprehends that a relationship works by two people both putting in equal work.

The guy paying is the "gentlemanly" thing to do, but believe me, there are people who would (and do) exploit that to the fullest extent. It has to be in equal measure.

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If we go to movies you must pay for your ticket if I payed for yours last time (As in one date I pay for yours and mine, then you pay the next time)
Pitch in to help pay for dinner if we go to a restaurant (50 50 or so)

This is really lame of you to say. If you're taking the girl out, you're paying.

(Note I am not very high on going to restaurants anyway, I am more of a pizza guy)
I just mean that if the bill is say 1000 dollars it would be nice if you help pay, it doesn't have to be 50 50 but at least try to help pay for the food. Putting in about an equal amount of is just what you should be doing, it helps keep a relationship balanced.

I must find them attractive. The only thing I have found unattractive is chubby/fat bodies and black girls. NOW! Just because I find them unattractive, doesn't mean I'm calling them ugly. I'm sure many have an eye for the. They just don't excite me. I find cuteness in every girl. I absolutely love them. But yeah, for me to be with for such a long time, you have can't be what I said before.

Personality wise...well...the common ones. Understanding, caring, fun, sweet, playful, respectful, responsible, optimistic, relatable(Love how Google is telling me I spelled this incorrectly and that no such word exists), daring, *coughdominantcough*, passionate, faithful... Someone that's introverted, but becomes extroverted with someone they feel will understand their true feeling. There's always things that I will look over.

Also, they must have come to this Earth a female. I don't care how sweet and adorable you are, if you used to be a male(Though you will always be a male. No surgery will ever change that), I don't want anything to do with you relationship wise.

They can be really pretty!
But...like I said, I can find something cute about every girl.

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The only thing I have found unattractive is chubby/fat bodies and black girls.

dude


are you even human

They're great and sweet girls and all, but I'm just not feeling the love!

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The only thing I have found unattractive is chubby/fat bodies and black girls.

dude


are you even human

It's just his preference, just like I don't really like the darker girls. (Not being racist)

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Since we're apparently on the subject of black girls, I have a black friend who's actually really pretty.

In your perspective

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If we go to movies you must pay for your ticket if I payed for yours last time (As in one date I pay for yours and mine, then you pay the next time)
Pitch in to help pay for dinner if we go to a restaurant (50 50 or so)

This is really lame of you to say. If you're taking the girl out, you're paying.

(Note I am not very high on going to restaurants anyway, I am more of a pizza guy)
I just mean that if the bill is say 1000 dollars it would be nice if you help pay, it doesn't have to be 50 50 but at least try to help pay for the food. Putting in about an equal amount of is just what you should be doing, it helps keep a relationship balanced.

I actually raged out loud when I read it, that's not really a cool thing to do when you're taking your gf out.

Also why would the movie be 1000 dollars O.o

Race is not a factor at all for me. I like all girls.


But going to a school that's over 80% black, I often get asked by black girls, "What would your mom say if you dated me?" or "What would your parents say if you dated a black girl?" and I don't know what that means. Probably either they like me, or they think I'm racist.


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This is really lame of you to say. If you're taking the girl out, you're paying.

(Note I am not very high on going to restaurants anyway, I am more of a pizza guy)
I just mean that if the bill is say 1000 dollars it would be nice if you help pay, it doesn't have to be 50 50 but at least try to help pay for the food. Putting in about an equal amount of is just what you should be doing, it helps keep a relationship balanced.

I actually raged out loud when I read it, that's not really a cool thing to do when you're taking your gf out.

Also why would the movie be 1000 dollars O.o

I mean, I agree with his overall message, I just wouldn't define it exactly like that.

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Quote: zer0dch

This is really lame of you to say. If you're taking the girl out, you're paying.

(Note I am not very high on going to restaurants anyway, I am more of a pizza guy)
I just mean that if the bill is say 1000 dollars it would be nice if you help pay, it doesn't have to be 50 50 but at least try to help pay for the food. Putting in about an equal amount of is just what you should be doing, it helps keep a relationship balanced.

I actually raged out loud when I read it, that's not really a cool thing to do when you're taking your gf out.

Also why would the movie be 1000 dollars O.o

It'sAReallyGoodMovie.

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Quote: zer0dch

This is really lame of you to say. If you're taking the girl out, you're paying.

(Note I am not very high on going to restaurants anyway, I am more of a pizza guy)
I just mean that if the bill is say 1000 dollars it would be nice if you help pay, it doesn't have to be 50 50 but at least try to help pay for the food. Putting in about an equal amount of is just what you should be doing, it helps keep a relationship balanced.

I actually raged out loud when I read it, that's not really a cool thing to do when you're taking your gf out.

Also why would the movie be 1000 dollars O.o

(I was mostly referring to a restaurant, trust me some of them get expensive)
I don't want to be used like a wallet, if your just using me for money and free stuff then you can't keep me. (I will do get you a gift every once in awhile but always remember that your dating me not my wallet)

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(I was mostly referring to a restaurant, trust me some of them get expensive)
I don't want to be used like a wallet, if your just using me for money and free stuff then you can't keep me. (I will do get you a gift every once in awhile but always remember that your dating me not my wallet)

That's the big thing. A lot of girls (and guys, if it's vice versa) can and will use their partner as nothing more than a wallet. It happens every day.

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Is it weird that appearance has never done anything to affect how I feel about a person? Personality is the only thing that matters to me, really. You could be the most beautiful person in the world and I would probably just go "ok but how do you feel about video games"

Thus I don't really have a preference based on appearance. I've never factored someone's looks into what I think of them or how I feel about them.

...This is probably really weird and I don't know how exactly to explain it.

You better sit down and rest Baro! You seem to be having trouble!

And no, it's not weird. I started to get when people said they felt that way. I'm not that way, but I see and understand it happening.

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You could be the most beautiful person in the world and I would probably just go "ok but how do you feel about video games"

Totally understandable.

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(I was mostly referring to a restaurant, trust me some of them get expensive)
I don't want to be used like a wallet, if your just using me for money and free stuff then you can't keep me. (I will do get you a gift every once in awhile but always remember that your dating me not my wallet)

That's the big thing. A lot of girls (and guys, if it's vice versa) can and will use their partner as nothing more than a wallet. It happens every day.

Ninja'd there

I just want us financially to both help pay for things (and if it is her birthday, I will pay for everything since it's her special day)
Lucky me though that my birthday is very close to my current GF's birthday

Basiccaly, not do these things:
Drugs
Smoke
Cheat
Illegal stuff
Be an asshole

I like who I like, which is rare, because I hate everyone.

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I like who I like, which is rare, because I hate everyone.

Do you leik me? <3

And another thing, the girl must accept that I am not going to do it with her UNTIL we are married. Possibly not afterwords still do to the fact that somethings aren't 100% of the time going to work. While the idea of it does seem fun, I don't want to risk anyone's health. (Inb4 people quote me on this saying I am a virgin, I don't mind being one as long as my partner is safe)

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And another thing, the girl must accept that I am not going to do it with her UNTIL we are married. Possibly not afterwords still do to the fact that somethings aren't 100% of the time going to work. While the idea of it does seem fun, I don't want to risk anyone's health. (Inb4 people quote me on this saying I am a virgin, I don't mind being one as long as my partner is safe)

Most people on this site (not S/N in particular) are virgins, so there's nothing to be ashamed of.

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I actually raged out loud when I read it, that's not really a cool thing to do when you're taking your gf out.

How so?

Not in all cases is it necessarily a bad thing, but even if I'd been dating a girl for years I'd always pay for her ticket as it just seems to be the thing to do as I would consider going to the movies a date. It's also just this cultural thing that goes on in our society that the male is obliged to pay on a date so there's that.

to be fair you could argue that going to the movies being a date is subjective which it really is so it's [having your gf pay] not really that wrong to do but more so the fact someones requirement in a relationship being you have to spring for movie tickets every other time or else you don't get to be them is...Or at least it is IMO

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Possibly not afterwords still do to the fact that somethings aren't 100% of the time going to work.

Um.....What exactly do you mean by this?

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Possibly not afterwords still do to the fact that somethings aren't 100% of the time going to work.

Um.....What exactly do you mean by this?

(Didn't quote this part cuz lazy) But what the hell do you mean even after marriage you might not have sex because it isn't safe?
First of all, if you dig deep enough you can find danger in anything
Secondly; What? Just....What?
Third: There is no third
Fourth: You are married to this person, you should not be even entertaining the possibility of divorce during or after your wedding until it's 'needed'
Fifth: You made the implication that having sex with someone who you may not always be with is a bad thing, which it really isn't
Sixth: refer to my signature cuz it's good advice


Boy I'm in a rage-y mood today and I don't know why.

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I actually raged out loud when I read it, that's not really a cool thing to do when you're taking your gf out.

How so?

Not in all cases is it necessarily a bad thing, but even if I'd been dating a girl for years I'd always pay for her ticket as it just seems to be the thing to do as I would consider going to the movies a date. It's also just this cultural thing that goes on in our society that the male is obliged to pay on a date so there's that.

to be fair you could argue that going to the movies being a date is subjective which it really is so it's [having your gf pay] not really that wrong to do but more so the fact someones requirement in a relationship being you have to spring for movie tickets every other time or else you don't get to be them is...Or at least it is IMO

Yeah every other time is kinda what I was going for, taking turns on who is paying for the movie


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Possibly not afterwords still do to the fact that somethings aren't 100% of the time going to work.

Um.....What exactly do you mean by this?

Its not very appropriate to talk about on Darkspyro sorry
(if your still in school then take health as a class) Just in example: Pregnancy Pills

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How so?

Not in all cases is it necessarily a bad thing, but even if I'd been dating a girl for years I'd always pay for her ticket as it just seems to be the thing to do as I would consider going to the movies a date. It's also just this cultural thing that goes on in our society that the male is obliged to pay on a date so there's that.

to be fair you could argue that going to the movies being a date is subjective which it really is so it's [having your gf pay] not really that wrong to do but more so the fact someones requirement in a relationship being you have to spring for movie tickets every other time or else you don't get to be them is...Or at least it is IMO

Yeah every other time is kinda what I was going for, taking turns on who is paying for the movie


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Possibly not afterwords still do to the fact that somethings aren't 100% of the time going to work.

Um.....What exactly do you mean by this?

Its not very appropriate to talk about on Darkspyro sorry
(if your still in school then take health as a class) Just in example: Pregnancy Pills

Oh, I see. You're worried about having a kid.

Okay, I'm not saying prophylactics and other birth control methods are always functional, but they're typically a lot more successful than high school health classes try to say. Most of what they tell you in health class is just propaganda.

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Possibly not afterwords still do to the fact that somethings aren't 100% of the time going to work.

Um.....What exactly do you mean by this?

Its not very appropriate to talk about on Darkspyro sorry
(if your still in school then take health as a class) Just in example: Pregnancy Pills

It's biology, it's not exactly forbidden.
Plus Birth control pills are 99% effective and condoms are 97% so I think I'll take my chances.

Right. They just tell you all that stuff (like you can die from smoking weed just one time) so you won't do it. Of course, you shouldn't be doing drugs anyway, but as far as sex goes, just use good sense.

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Not in all cases is it necessarily a bad thing, but even if I'd been dating a girl for years I'd always pay for her ticket as it just seems to be the thing to do as I would consider going to the movies a date. It's also just this cultural thing that goes on in our society that the male is obliged to pay on a date so there's that.

I would expect things to be half-and-half. I'm not going to always be the one spending money on the other, as at that point I wouldn't even consider it a relationship. I also care not for it being a cultural thing, as I'm not "obliged" to do anything other than treat him/her with respect, show love and care, etc.

It is the "gentlemen" thing to do, yes, but that doesn't mean that the man should be expected to pay on every date.

Also, I didn't understand that last part that I removed at all.

Fair enough, i respect what you're saying there.

And about the last part I'm kind of half-asleep so that's most likely why I made no sense.

I was basically just saying that it seemed a bit odd that ones significant other having to pay for their own meals all the time and paying for movie tickets specifically every other time was a requirement IMO.

Windumup doesn't like earrings?

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Not in all cases is it necessarily a bad thing, but even if I'd been dating a girl for years I'd always pay for her ticket as it just seems to be the thing to do as I would consider going to the movies a date. It's also just this cultural thing that goes on in our society that the male is obliged to pay on a date so there's that.

to be fair you could argue that going to the movies being a date is subjective which it really is so it's [having your gf pay] not really that wrong to do but more so the fact someones requirement in a relationship being you have to spring for movie tickets every other time or else you don't get to be them is...Or at least it is IMO

Yeah every other time is kinda what I was going for, taking turns on who is paying for the movie


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Um.....What exactly do you mean by this?

Its not very appropriate to talk about on Darkspyro sorry
(if your still in school then take health as a class) Just in example: Pregnancy Pills

Oh, I see. You're worried about having a kid.

Okay, I'm not saying prophylactics and other birth control methods are always functional, but they're typically a lot more successful than high school health classes try to say. Most of what they tell you in health class is just propaganda.

Exactly, while some people think having a kid to look after will be fun, I think it would be awful. Especially since down the road you know they will be teenagers and may get in a bad crowd or worst.

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Yeah every other time is kinda what I was going for, taking turns on who is paying for the movie


Its not very appropriate to talk about on Darkspyro sorry
(if your still in school then take health as a class) Just in example: Pregnancy Pills

Oh, I see. You're worried about having a kid.

Okay, I'm not saying prophylactics and other birth control methods are always functional, but they're typically a lot more successful than high school health classes try to say. Most of what they tell you in health class is just propaganda.

Exactly, while some people think having a kid to look after will be fun, I think it would be awful. Especially since down the road you know they will be teenagers and may get in a bad crowd or worst.

Just be aware that you will probably change your mind about that someday.

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Fair enough, I respect what you're saying there.

And about the last part I'm kind of half-asleep so that's most likely why I made no sense.

I was basically just saying that it seemed a bit odd that ones significant other having to pay for their own meals all the time and paying for movie tickets specifically every other time was a requirement IMO.

Ah, I see.

Oh, yeah, that does seem a bit odd.

Well movies are less expensive then eating at a restaurant and we are more likely to go to a movie. It balances itself out.
And too be honest are idea of a good "hanging out" aka date is just coming over to each other's house and play video games.
(This time I am specifically talking about my current relationship)

Just for the record guys, date someone in your age range. If you're 18, don't date anyone under 18 (obviously).

One of my close friends who is 19 started dating a 16 year old and they started having sex with protection. Nine months later he was called to the hospital and now has a child. His girlfriend literally didn't tell him that she was pregnant (he assumed she was getting fat) and he found out the night his baby was born. Due to the age difference, the hospital had to inform the police.

He ended up going to prison, had to register as a sex offender/pedophile (unconfirmed on the second part) and cannot see his girlfriend until she is 18. He must now pay $150 a month for child support. She left him and he does not have custody of the child.

His father ended up bailing him out of jail.

If he contacts his girlfriend or tries to see her, off to prison he goes.

Sorry for the wacky story, but seriously, date someone in your age group. Only consent to sex if you're both willing and understand the risk.

Well i literally just dont mind about gender or sex but they have to respect me and be kind and have similar morals to mine. Basically their heart has to be in the right place and they can't be an asshole. I'm already dating somebody though so it's kinda hard to put my finger on my "rules"...

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Just for the record guys, date someone in your age range. If you're 18, don't date anyone under 18 (obviously).

One of my close friends who is 19 started dating a 16 year old have they started having sex with protection. Nine months later he was called to the hospital and now has a child. His girlfriend literally didn't tell him that she was pregnant (he assumed she was getting fat) and he found out the night his baby was born. Due to the age difference, the hospital had to inform the police.

He ended up going to prison, had to register as a sex offender/pedophile (unconfirmed on the second part) and cannot see his girlfriend until she is 18. He must now pay $150 a month for child support. She left him and he does not have custody of the child.

His father ended up bailing him out of jail.

If he contacts his girlfriend or tries to see her, off to prison he goes.

Sorry for the wacky story, but seriously, date someone in your age group. Only consent to sex if you're both willing and understand the risk.

Romeo and Juliet law *****.