So I saw what happened last night; read through the majority of it, and then got context from a little birdy. For the sake of privacy I will try to avoid naming the people involved with the problem.
I'm not going to speak much on the issue that lead up to what happened yesterday. I don't know all too much about it aside from what I've read. Matters of the heart can be confusing, yes. But regardless of that you should have the decency to tell the other person this, rather than them finding out on their own.
But that's not what we're here for is it? We're here because of the idea that a person's problems have no place in the Skype group. This new user in the group (we will call her Brazuca) supposedly has spoken a lot about her problems to you guys. One of my mods thinks that a separate group should be made for things like this and that it takes away from the discussions in the group itself.
I disagree.
When I remade the Skype group from the original owner, I envisioned it to be a place for people from the site (or associated with the site) to gather around, talk, enjoy themselves, and overall get on a new level of connectivity beyond what dS itself can provide. This includes the ability for someone in the group to talk to others about the problems they are dealing with. From what I'm told, Brazuca is showing signs (or even outright said) that she has depression and perhaps a lack of self-confidence (I'm terribly sorry if I'm wrong). That **** isn't something to play around with, and it's only expected that she try and find comfort and appreciation among people she considers her friends. Implying that she should do this elsewhere as to not interfere with conversations in the group (which tbh are largely nonsense) could only further harm her self esteem, and make her believe that she has only been a burden. That's really not cool.
Don't get me wrong; I'm not saying that it's what you people meant to do. Nor do I think that Brazuca should make it a regular thing to come into the group and talk about what ails her. But we've often spoken about our problems to each other in the group. We're supposed to be friends right? Hell I used to do it too. I still would, except I'm afraid of running into the issues that came up last night, or just being ignored entirely.
Right, about that. To the people that are afraid of seeming insensitive or rude for not responding to someone's problems: You're only human. Sometimes you just can't help much or don't want to discuss it. It's fine. You're not being rude for engaging in your own conversation in the call or for going off to do something else. It's when NOBODY helps a person when it becomes a problem, and potentially rude. If you can't help much, simply say you can't help.
Consider me split down the middle, while still being biased as ****. The mod in question isn't wrong for thinking that these discussions detract from the rest of the group, especially when they happen on a daily basis and from the same person. When it reaches that point, the person in question (Brazuca) should probably cool it down a bit and also find a single person who she can trust in private. Also yeah the problem last night probably could've been done between the three people directly involved.
But at the same time, Brazuca has problems and has trusted the Skype group enough to talk to you guys about them. Shunning her will not help and implying she should make some sort of problem group for things like this is silly. The Skype group is intended to be fun and games, but also should be a place where we can help each other. I'm pretty certain I've said this in the past.
In other words, I'm siding with the other mod for the most part.
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