darkSpyro

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Questions like this are pretty subjective, since everyone has different opinions on "when a couple should say what" or "when a couple should do this." So, here are my two cents on this question.

First, I think there are two different "I love you"s.

There are the casual ones you say to your partner, because it honestly feels kind of weird not to say it, even if you aren't sure you love them. They're the quick "love you!" when you say goodbye to your partner on the phone, or the "oh my god I love you" when your partner is doing something you find charming. Saying the casual "love you" is sort of like an auditory cue of the relationship, to not only others, but to you and your partner.

Then there is the real deal, the whole hog, "I love you." That's the one that people try to put a timestamp on, and honestly I don't blame them. People worry that saying it too early is a sign of rushing into things, and saying it too late might make their partner leave out of impatience. Then there is that question of "Do I love them? Or am I infatuated?" Things like that should be given time to figure out if you aren't sure, but honestly, things like emotions should never have a timestamp on them. If you feel it, then you feel it. If you don't, then you don't.

Emotions are spontaneous. We can interpret emotions when they happen, which is called emotional intelligence, but we cannot accurately predict who will feel what or when they'll feel it. It's like when your friend tells you "Oh my god, you HAVE to go see this movie, you will CRY!!" But when you actually go see the movie, you don't cry at all. That's because your friend experiences emotions differently than you. Everyone experiences emotions differently than you, which is why something so geared behind emotions like romantic relationships are hard to put labels on.

It took my sister seven whole years to marry her husband, and it took my own parents not even one year into their relationship to marry each other. It doesn't mean that my sister didn't love my brother in-law any less than my parents had love each other. Both are still very married and very in love with each other. The topic on "when a couple should get married," I have other additional opinions about, but it's similar in nature with this topic.

It's just like saying the big "I love you." If you feel you are ready to say it, then you should say it. That feeling is going to arrive at different times for people, and couples may act upon it sooner or later. I feel like your brother was just saying it casually, but who knows, he may have legitimately loved this girl with all of his heart.

I'd say you shouldn't say it to someone unless you actually mean it. There's a huge difference between liking someone, like when you first get together, and actually loving someone. I think it depends on the couple though. I know two people who said it to each other after only 3 weeks, then a month after that they got engaged, then a year later they got married.

never
**** on the first date and then go on a cross country trip to avoid meaningful personal growth

shoot your load and hit the road

I knew my current boyfriend for over 3 years prior to us going out, but it still felt really soon when he said it only a week into our relationship. Of course it was online, so the context was tough to judge, but it felt really sudden and honestly scared me quite a bit.

I say "I love you" to my GF all the time but she never responds. I dunno what's wrong :/

when they finally notice you watching them from the bushes

When it feels right. Not as a manipulation.

I've experienced manipulation "I love you's" and actual love "I love you's". Ones coming from love feel warm to say and receive. Manipulation ones just feel wrong/empty.

2nd date

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2nd date

WHAT.

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2nd date

No, no, second date is when you skip the whole thing and go straight to sex.

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then u stick it in her and pee

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Only after she buys you at least 5 Skylanders.

After a minimum of two months, but even that’s pushing it. I’d personally wait till like, the third or fourth month.

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then u stick it in her and pee

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pee in condom

When you say "I love you."

I think "I love you" in any context should only be said when you feel it. No one should feel obligated to say it ever, not even to family or as a response to someone else telling you that they love you. It may just be words, but it's important you don't feel forced in using the words.
However I also believe it should be used a bit more freely, I think that loving people in any context, friend-wise, partner-wise and family-wise should be spoken of a bit more and so if you *do* feel it you shouldn't feel ashamed of saying it to the person.