darkSpyro

so...if she's into me and I'm into her, does that mean I'm doing anything wrong

If you help her cheat, 100% definitely.
If you cause her to break up with her current significant other, yes. Just slightly less worse.

Would you want someone disrespecting and interfering with your relationship? Probably not. Also just a word of advice, if she is someone that would be willing to cheat in her current relationship for you, she would be willing to cheat on you too.

Well, I'm not the one that started it. We're not cheating, she's just interested in me and told me, and I was kind of into her...and she wants to try dating. i didn't provoke her to do want to do it

I couldn't do it unless she broke it off with her current person.

inb4 "ohhoho greeny bait thread so she can ***** about her exes again"

Every relationship I've been in except for two ended in me getting cheated on. From someone with 5 cheating exes, I can say that it's genuinely one of the ****tiest things you can do to someone.

If you haven't been cheated on, imagine this. Let's say you've been dating someone you love for a very long time. You pour your heart and soul into loving them, and when you're around them, you feel alive. You feel happy. You feel like you can take on the world.

Now what if all of that was brutally ripped from you with one sentence. What if all that trust, all those intimate moments, all those good memories, all that LOVE was thrown out the window in mere seconds.
How would you feel? Pretty ****ty, right? That's what it's like.

Even then, if she cheats on him with you, and you end up together, can you really trust her? If she's willing to cheat on him, it's likely she's willing to cheat on you. What's stopping her from finding someone else?

It's an INCREDIBLY ****ty thing to do. If she breaks up with him to be with you, yeah, I guess that's somewhat acceptable, but it's still pretty heartless.

If she isn't happy in her relationship and wants to break up with her current one to be with you, let her do so before she so much as looks at you in a funny way.

If she IS happy and just wants another person on the side that should be a major red flag and you need to stay away.

Just my personal opinion, but if she's being flirtatious with you and admitting to having feelings for you while in a relationship with someone else that already seems like a red flag.

But like Strider said, cheating sucks. Like a lot. So whatever ends up happening you need to make sure that she's completely done with the other person before the two of you get together.

She doesn't want to cheat with her current partner, but thanks for the tips guys.

And no, I haven't been cheated on so I truly wouldn't know...but I wouldn't want to do anything with her until she broke things off her partner.

I do feel a little sleazy about it though...can't put my finger on it though. I feel as if I created a really close connection with her that she doesn't have, or something. Idek.

I don't want to escalate things.

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She did tell me though...if I told anyone then she would blackmail me about my anime weeb obsession. Not even kidding. No one knows I adore rom/coms but her. It's kind of hot.

Oh yeah I kind of forgot to mention it but I'm technically her boss in the division....so it'd have to be low key. Not sure if it's worth being transferred to a different division if my coworkers found out..

She is 8 months older than me.

Well YOU'RE not doing anything wrong. Just be weary of any woman who would dump her BF for somebody "better".

Well, it could be fun and exciting?

Well if you work with her, especially if you're her boss, she should be off limits.

Not only is it unprofessional, you wouldn't want to risk your job for someone else.

My crotch Isn't saying anything.

If anything got leaked out, at most she would move to a different division.

REBEL MEMES, REBEL

I've been in both your shoes and the other guy's shoes before.

Therefore, I can tell you from experience that Bumblebunnii said it best: if she'll cheat with you, she'll cheat on you, and if she'll dump another guy for you, she'll dump you for another guy.

Combine that with the fact that she's a coworker and it goes from a "no" to a "HELL no" from me. Jussayin'.

EDIT: You say you weren't the one who started it, which implies that she was already having problems in the relationship. Of course, I could be reading too closely, but if this is indeed the case, then you're taking advantage of her situation by flirting with her in this manner, whether you intend to or not. Which makes you a dick. So I suggest you jump ship before this gets even worse.

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I do feel a little sleazy about it though...can't put my finger on it though. I feel as if I created a really close connection with her that she doesn't have, or something. Idek.

I don't want to escalate things.

She did tell me though...if I told anyone then she would blackmail me about my anime weeb obsession. Not even kidding. No one knows I adore rom/coms but her. It's kind of hot.

If you're feeling kinda sleazy and uncomfortable about it, it may be for the best to hold off for a while, even after she breaks up with this guy (IF she does).

Then you don't have to say anything. Move onward if nothing happens.

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Oh yeah I kind of forgot to mention it but I'm technically her boss in the division....so it'd have to be low key. Not sure if it's worth being transferred to a different division if my coworkers found out..

She is 8 months older than me.

Please tell me you just mean the video game.

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Even then, if she cheats on him with you, and you end up together, can you really trust her? If she's willing to cheat on him, it's likely she's willing to cheat on you. What's stopping her from finding someone else?

This stay away from them

Oh if I could have relationship problems like all of you...

have fun getting beaten to a pulp by the woman's boyfriend

Damn it. That did not go as planned.

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Damn it. That did not go as planned.

I mean, it's a dumb idea, but it's your dumb idea. If you want to, go ahead.

I wish there was an emoji I could post to describe where I'm at now.

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I wish there was an emoji I could post to describe where I'm at now.

Care to give us more details about what's going on?

I am curious too