darkSpyro

What are your opinions on it? Is it a flattering compliment, or is it rude?

Are you catcalled often/ have you ever done it?

Only guy that did it to me was drunk and literally harassing every other woman on that street since it was a line to a bus. So not a good first impression.

I don't like it, wouldn't want it, and in the street it just leads nowhere since it's not like the person will stop whatever they're doing to talk, usually they're in a hurry. But there's probably some good situation for it, like a club or something.

I hate it and it makes me feel really uncomfortable.

It's not really harassment though if all they do is say one thing to you. I've been followed around though by creepy older men, and let me tell you, that was pretty scary.

I personally don't like it. Twas cat called in high school by a fair amount of males in my PE class who kept staring at my ass. Maybe I wouldn't mind it if they actually weren't being assholes about it. I don't mind compliments like "Wow your butt looks nice in those pants", but those guys in my PE class were staring and giggling at my ass like middle school drop outs.

The only catcalls that I hate are the people who do it behind the girl's back.

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I hate it and it makes me feel really uncomfortable.

It's not really harassment though if all they do is say one thing to you. I've been followed around though by creepy older men, and let me tell you, that was pretty scary.

agreed with this

Very disgusting, low and dehumanizing.

Tbh I've been mistaken for a dude more times than I've been cat called, but the few times I have been it did make me super uncomfortable.

So yeah it's definitely rude and gross. They generally aren't even phrased like a compliment, they're phrased like some kinda insult.

it's never happened to me, nor have i done it

I've never witnessed a catcalling, but if I ever did you should be certain that I'd say something to the asshole who decided to do it

Never been catcalled, but I find it extremely rude

In my opinion yelling at someone on the street is always rude.
There's a total difference between complimenting someone and harassing them.
And half of the time someone has decided to yell something at me to get my attention, they have started actually following me.

I don't mind someone coming up to speak to me at all. I'm always friendly and respectful to those who are friendly and respectful to me.
But when you yell "Hey, girl!" at me like I'm a dog, or something vulgar, **** you.

I was just curious as to how other people here felt, because there are many who don't see a problem with catcalling at all.

lol I googled it and I didn't even know that people did that

If it does happen around me I guess I just don't care enough to notice but the men who I saw doing it (in a video just now) look pretty sketchy

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Tbh I've been mistaken for a dude more times than I've been cat called, but the few times I have been it did make me super uncomfortable.

So yeah it's definitely rude and gross. They generally aren't even phrased like a compliment, they're phrased like some kinda insult.

that's depressing that people think your a guy.

why would you say that..

To be honest I don't give a ****. Let them say what they say, it doesn't do anything. But if they like start following you, then that's weird.

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To be honest I don't give a ****. Let them say what they say, it doesn't do anything. But if they like start following you, then that's weird.

Well it does demean the girl getting catcalled and she may feel self conscious and that people only like her for her body. a lot of guys are just assholes tbh and don't treat women right which bothers me

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To be honest I don't give a ****. Let them say what they say, it doesn't do anything. But if they like start following you, then that's weird.

Well it does demean the girl getting catcalled and she may feel self conscious and that people only like her for her body. a lot of guys are just assholes tbh and don't treat women right which bothers me

What I was saying was that it doesn't make me self conscious or think I'm only good for my body.

Men who catcall are neanderthals.

Not a fan. Even if you take out the sexual harassment and how it makes women feel, it feels tacky. Complimenting is acceptable but what would typically be considered catcalling seems like the wrong way to get with someone.

If you don't mind it then that's fine but I still wouldn't do it.

It makes me very uncomfortable.

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To be honest I don't give a ****. Let them say what they say, it doesn't do anything. But if they like start following you, then that's weird.

agreed, whenever im catcalled im like k and just take it as a compliment

As far as I know, I've never been catcalled. I've had random people call me ugly before, but I've never heard anyone direct a sexual comment towards me. Which is great, because even a single comment would make me extremely uncomfortable; I wouldn't want to just walk away and pretend I didn't hear them because that's kind of rude, but I wouldn't want to acknowledge them because that could encourage them. I wouldn't know what to say to it anyway. So I'd have to ignore them, but then there's the chance that they'll follow me around and of course that scares me.

I think it's rude and I definitely wouldn't want anyone to catcall me. I know lots of people don't see it as a big deal (unless it escalates into stalking, of course) but personally, the thought of someone thinking about me in a sexual way is creepy because I don't want any of that. I wouldn't take catcalls as an insult, but not really as a compliment either tbh; just creepy.

they don't call me 'crookshanks' for no reason ;) ;)

Well I doubt the cat will respond since that really only works with dogs or... cows and horses I think?

I do it with my friends and my friends do it to me. I don't know about you guys but it is ****ing hilarious.

In between friends. When a guy does it to another girl, it's usually in a group and the girl usually laughs it off and says thanks. I don't know how people can get offended by it, it is a compliment and I never mind it when I am the receiver.

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When a guy does it to another girl, it's usually in a group and the girl usually laughs it off and says thanks.

Tbh I don't know where you're getting that information from. Maybe the girls where you live tend to just laugh and say thanks, but judging from what I've seen and read in this topic, it makes a lot of other girls uncomfortable, even if they shrug it off. I know you said "usually" but yeah.

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I don't know how people can get offended by it, it is a compliment and I never mind it when I am the receiver.

If you consider a stranger saying "hey baby, nice tits, why don't you take a ride on my crotch" and stuff of that nature as a compliment then more power to ya (I know you probably mean loud wolf whistles and comments that are more explicitly innocent than that, but know that "sexual comments" are in the definition of "catcall" and tbh whistles aren't much different, they can imply the same thing), I just don't find that kind of comment very polite or respectful. Just understand that it just depends on the individual. I mean, it's good to hear that that stuff doesn't bother you. But for me, like I said, I personally don't like people thinking of me in a sexual way and trying to make sure I know exactly what they're thinking of so I don't like catcalls and would not find them funny. Just depends on the person...

Not to sound rude or confrontational, just stating my side...

I find it rude, TBFH


I have never been cat called though

*Shrugs* I don't care.

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Tbh I've been mistaken for a dude more times than I've been cat called, but the few times I have been it did make me super uncomfortable.

So yeah it's definitely rude and gross. They generally aren't even phrased like a compliment, they're phrased like some kinda insult.

that's depressing that people think your a guy.

I'm mistaken for a guy sometimes myself.
I have long hair and a feminine face.
But I wear jeans, and men's t-shirts that are a size too big for me. I'm mistaken for one of those guys with long hair.
Sometimes it has nothing to do with what the girl's face.

Yeah that's p much what I get. My body shape/face is real feminine, I just wear a lot of really casual guy clothes and don't really "dress up" much.

I think it extemely rude. I've witnessed it and yelled at kids who have done it at my school.

It's stupid.


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To be honest I don't give a ****. Let them say what they say, it doesn't do anything. But if they like start following you, then that's weird.

Well it does demean the girl getting catcalled and she may feel self conscious and that people only like her for her body. a lot of guys are just assholes tbh and don't treat women right which bothers me

I can feel your fedora tipping.

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It's stupid.


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To be honest I don't give a ****. Let them say what they say, it doesn't do anything. But if they like start following you, then that's weird.

Well it does demean the girl getting catcalled and she may feel self conscious and that people only like her for her body. a lot of guys are just assholes tbh and don't treat women right which bothers me

I can feel your fedora tipping.

M'lady

There's a cat that sometimes I see around my house

cats aren't dogs they don't need to be called.

guys i dont have a cat so i cant call it

lmao can i win the oscar for most original screeplay please?

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cats aren't dogs they don't need to be called.

I already made this joke!

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cats aren't dogs they don't need to be called.

I already made this joke!

literally everyone made the joke hence my mocking it

BUT I DID IT FIRST DADDY!

It's one of those things where it really has a time and a place. And it's not that often that it's appropriate.

And if a person is clearly uncomfortable with it then yeah, you should stop, because it can become harassment.

If the person doesn't seem bothered by being catcalled and the setting is appropriate enough to where bystanders wouldn't get uncomfortable, like in a club or in private or whatever, then by all means, cat call away.

It's not something I would ever do to express interest in a lady, though.