darkSpyro

I have been incredibly selfish lately. To literally everyone in my life.

i question my ability to be a parent, let alone to try to find another person as a partner. i have a **** relationship with my sister because of everything that happened to us in the last seven years. i keep hearing that im nothing but a ***** and always have an attitude and that i need to see someone again for therapy but who tf knows.

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Alright, so… I’m in need of a little advice. I am a little hesitant to post this but eh whatever. I want to get it out. There’s a girl at work who I see quite a bit, and honestly I find her to be really cute. We work in different departments though, so while we cross paths fairly often we’re not usually working directly together or doing the same jobs. We talk occasionally but it’s really only about work related stuff. She’s always polite though and does seem very nice. Anyway I want to get to know her better, but I guess I just feel really awkward going up to her out of the blue to start a conversation. Idk. All my friends are telling me “just go talk to her”. Maybe I’m just over-thinking it and it’s not actually THAT difficult. I know it can’t hurt to go talk to her. It’s just … actually doing it that scares me? It’s frustrating because the only thing holding me back is me. And most of the time I have no problem talking to people and making new friends, but… I guess it’s different in this situation. I’m also scared if I do nothing and end up being mad at myself for it. >__< Anyway I’m going back in tonight so I guess I’ll see what happens.

I wanted to get back to you sooner but life is hectic at the moment ...
Geez, I know your feeling, I think a lot of people know your feeling. I haven't really spoken to you much but you seem genuine and sweet, and I think you're a cool guy. ^^;
You're going to hate me for this, but yeah, I think you're going to have to just bite the bullet and try to talk to her more. Like, yeah, it's super hard at first because you have to reach for something to have a conversation about, but the more you get to know her, the more you can talk about and it gets a lot easier. But I know the feeling of talking to a friend, and talking to someone you're interested in. It feels a lot different ... probably because you want to say something to impress them and not seem like a total dork LOL. But for me, personally, acting like a total dork is endearing and cute and I think it's super sweet. And for me personally, I wouldn't get annoyed or angry if anyone wanted to talk to me, even a stranger (but I mean obviously you have to be nice). I think it's nice that someone saw me and thought it'd be nice to start a con wraation. It's a good feeling! It's hard gathering the courage, I know, but ... nothing worth it is easy I guess lol. I'm no bloody expert on this crap, don't get me wrong, because I'm like the expert on unrequited love (both on my end and my admirers ends) ... but yeah, you just gotta bite the bullet and try to talk to her more. Make excuses to be around her, learn about her so that you have more to talk about, stuff like that. If worst comes to worst, you get a new friend out of it. ;;
Hope you'll be okay, and sorry I'm a little late to reply. I hope I helped you at least a little bit ... and good luck with whatever happens in the end. :')